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Given the general silence and weirdness surrounding the topic, it can be scary, but never afraid-we 've covered it for you.
Huffington Post interviewed a licensed sex therapist and Dr. Adam and Eve's resident Relations Specialist
Kat Van Kirkto reveals the secrets of anal sex and answers all your prying questions about the back door business.
"A lot of women don't talk about anal sex because there is still a shame about anal sex," Van Kirk said . ".
"A lot of people have misunderstood.
So we decided to clean it up for you.
Here are 13 things every woman should know before trying ass sex: Van Kirk says the key to enjoying anal sex is to be good for your body and feel. Her first tip?
Try it yourself.
"I usually recommend that women start with the use of lubricating oil, fingers, or gloves-wearing fingers or some kind of anal toy to incorporate anal games into masturbation," she said . ".
"It really helps to feel this feeling alone when you're in bed with your partner.
"Starting with the right toy is the key.
When the anal beads or butt plugs of the first anal toy work fine, Van Kirk suggests something vibrating.
Van Kirk said the vibration could be "a familiar feeling," adding that the feeling could "help to relax the pubococcygeus muscles, these muscles are wrapped around the vaginal opening and the anus in figure 8.
Van Kirk suggested that Adam and Eve were my first anal toy and a trophy for vibrating beads.
If you want to take it up to a notch, she also recommends a beginner's back door kit or loot boot camp kit for Adam and Eve.
It is very important to be safe and smart about what you are using.
"You never want to insert anything that doesn't have a loop to pull out or based on an outbreak, because that's how you end up in the emergency room," Van Kirk said . ".
"You want to take it out.
"People, spontaneously, are not playing ass games.
Drunk Ass sex is not fun, according to Van Kirk.
"Don't just get drunk or under some sort of substance, just want to get it in," Van Kirk said . ".
"That's why a lot of women end up hating anal sex because you tend to be nervous and not involved in the process.
Van Kirk suggests trying to have sex with someone you trust and you're comfortable.
You shouldn't have a relationship with this person, but you need to be able to set boundaries and talk openly.
"Unless it's a very good person --
"Proficient and willing to complete the process with you, after you have already been exposed to the process yourself, there are certainly exceptions," she said . ".
"But usually, try with an ordinary partner and someone who is responsive and caring and is willing to put in a little preparation time again-maybe a week or a month in advance, no matter what works for you, you will succeed.
"Dialogue is a very good thing," Van Kirk said . ".
"First of all, you need to be able
Advocate what feels good and what feels bad.
Secondly, your partner needs to look for clues about discomfort and take some feedback in the process.
Van Kirk says the process of trusting communication can really determine if you feel the experience is enjoyable: "It's interesting because anal sex brings shame and fear, if you do it in a way that is truly conscious and communicating, it can actually improve your intimacy with your partner.
Not only physically, but emotionally, because you have a completely different level of trust in each other.
A big part of making love for beginners is to add some
Time to prepare
When you try out some anal toys yourself or with your partner, you need the right tools: a condom, a fake penis, or a strap
If you're a weird woman, there's a ton of lubricating oil, of course.
For the quirky woman, Van Kirk suggested some toys, including the U of Adam and Eve to send me a double vibrator that vibrates the double seat belt
The double trouble glass pressed the ripples 18 "more than double.
Another important part of the puzzle is lubricating oil.
If you want to try hip sex in a bathtub or shower, Van Kirk suggests trying silicone-
Base oil is not waterbased (try this one). For your run-of-the-
Mill bedroom, waterbased lubes (
Like this or this)
Will work very well.
Whatever you use, make sure you're using a healthy amount.
This is where some women think they will be scared away.
According to Van Kirk, but you should be fine if you follow a simple rule.
In order to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections, you should always wear condoms, but in the case of anal sex, condoms also help with hygiene.
Whether it's a strap-
In dildo or body parts, you always want to clean up before entering the next destination.
"If you don't clean up or replace the condom, you never want to get into the vagina from the anus because you can introduce pathogens that can cause other infections," Van Kirk said . ".
Van Kirk said that in terms of diet, a normal diet, try to stay away from food that may be very "stimulating the intestines.
So if you know you have sex later in the evening, don't eat chili or BBQ.
Good things to eat before ass sex?
Van Kirk says it's better to whiten bananas, rice, tofu or fish.
"Usually there is not a lot of fecal elements in that area, but if you eat something that stimulates the intestines, it causes diarrhea, and then the feces sink into the rectum, says Van Kirk.
"Before making sure things work properly, you want to have a solid bowel movement in a few days.
"A lot of women want to be enemies and they think it's a good thing," Van Kirk said . ".
"But I don't recommend it for beginners.
"There are two main reasons for not taking the enema route.
First of all, the enemy has little meaning in anatomy.
Medical procedures include the injection of liquid or gas into the rectum to discharge waste.
"Many women think they are excluding fecal elements, but in fact that part of the rectum has very few fecal elements, and it tends to come from higher places," Van Kirk said.
"So if you push the manure elements further, then they naturally cause cramps in the intestines.
"Secondly, if you haven't done it before, you may get an enema scratch.
"According to the way enemas is inserted, people may be scratched for that," she said . ".
"You basically just want to be very careful about this area and doing an enema can sometimes make things worse and you may end up getting infected, including but not limited to sexually transmitted infections.
"The more relaxed you are, the more enjoyable the experience will be.
"This is not actuallyand-
There was a problem at the beginning, "said Van Kirk.
"It's more of a process that means you want to learn to relax and figure out what that feeling is.
Of course, it can be hard to calm down when you put something on your ass, but Van Kirk says it's key-she knows some tricks to help you relax.
"The best way to redesign
"In the central nervous system of your body, the route of the pain/happy response is to stimulate the clit at the same time," she said . ".
"If you have a good vibrator, or you are masturbating, or your partner is masturbating, this can actually be re-done
Take some route and make you have more fun.
"Your favorite hug pose is also the best ass sex pose: touch.
Van Kirk said this. by-
The position on the side will prevent your partner from going too deep and too fast.
If you're really getting sick of these ass, Van Kirk suggests you try it in the tub or in the shower.
If you are taking a shower, it is the best place to stand up and face your partner.
Just make sure you have something strong to catch!
Nightmare alarm
Seriously, Van Kirk said, you'll be fine.
"At the beginning, you may feel that you have to evacuate immediately when anything that penetrates you enters," she said . ".
"Normally, the feeling is often part of the feeling, and it usually disappears if you can sit with it for a few minutes.
If you're really freaking out, take a break and come back and have a look.
But as your body gets used to this feeling, it's almost always part of the feeling.
Van Kirk said: "Everyone's pain is different, but from the scale of 1-1, it should never exceed 3-4. 10.
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She noticed a few red flags to pay attention.
"From the back end, there shouldn't be any blood, bruises or something like that," Van Kirk said . ".
"In terms of a woman's experience, it's really about focusing on how you feel physically.
The feeling of feeling
Trying not to pay attention to it is an important difference.
When you try not to pay attention to it, it seems to be when things go wrong.
Quick Tips to avoid pain response?
"Some partners will put it in and pull it all the way out and repeat it," she said . ".
"I found out with the newbies that it really seems helpful if they can keep it that way and keep the rhythm of the movement, because it's been pulling it back at first, it will only bring more pain to people.
It's all worth it, ladies.
Van Kirk confirmed yes, you have a G-in factcan-
Found orgasm from ass sex.
The bottom of the rectum corresponds to the top of the vagina, which is G-spot is.
Find the best location for G-
The location of the back door is the reverse cowboy girl, or stand by your partner and face you.
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