My first 12-year-
The old son asked me if I would buy him a Playboy magazine and I gave him one from my storage room.
"I happened to have a copy," I said casually, sneaking into the closet to get it for him.
I'm glad he can ask me but I have to provide my standard growth --up-
Lectures on women/feminism
"These articles are good," I said, as if I really thought he would look at them, "but you have to realize that real women are not like those pictures at all.
The girls were perfectly screened and most of them had fake breasts.
"True and False, Mom, how can you say" the generation gap has expanded.
Age at Jenny McCarthy/Pamela Anderson/perfect MTV baby
The beach ball on the woman's chest is normal for him.
I mumbled a few words and tried to describe the difference.
Luckily, he didn't ask me to tidy up the nudity from the pretender, giving me a sigh of relief, and he took the magazine to the privacy of his bedroom.
As a porn writer and a woman who grew up in sexual ignorance, I do not believe in censorship of children.
But I also don't believe that obscene attacks on them before they are ready, whether in print or online.
So I have no problem with Playboy being blocked out of sight at the convenience store, or with porn sites having adult sites and no problem --warning pages. Kid-
Filtering software is a bit difficult for me;
It seems like a good idea, but I know there are too many such parents who are more ignorant people who need better communication and more time with their children ---
Then the children had to hang out and study at someone else's house. Like my house.
Six months after the Playboy incident, my son and a few friends sat in the bedroom and shared dirty magazines, while I was around the corner, invisible and washing clothes.
"We should close the door so your mom won't catch us," said a guilty man . "
It sounds like the child said when he was looking at the center fold.
"Oh, no big deal," replied my son. of-
What worries me is confidence in the facts.
My mom was reading the penthouse.
"I didn't stay to respond and temporarily gave up thinking about my parenting skills.
I am a football mom and a parent of a tutor, but I also read and write obscene works with a serious passion.
No matter how free and open I think I am, there is a good route to go as a parent.
I believe that when children are ready to know something, they should be provided in a smart and honest way.
It's hard to hide your own things.
As a porn writer, the problem of how to live with the children is bothering me every day.
I can accept the fact that I own a riding crop and other sex toys ---
These are all private and easy to hide and are no different from the dirty movies I have collected.
(Maybe when they ask. . . I don't know.
) But it took me a few hours to write and they know that and I'm proud of the article I made.
I just don't want them to see it.
When we talk about it, I say it's a bit "lively" and they smile but they don't ask any questions ---yet.
I saw Molly Zhong's interview.
Recently, she said she had never read any of her mother's books (Erica Zhong, Queen of erotic writing, when I was an adult ).
It fascinates me. -if Jong-
Fast herself, 21, is also a writer who still can't read mother's dirty words, and maybe my child will never read my porn story.
But their grandma knows.
Yes, even my mother was involved in this multi-generation obscene family.
The 70-year-old conservative woman, who had never even seen a penthouse in her life, suddenly had a great interest in my writing.
The first story I tentatively showed her in a magazine won only the comment "Wow, it's almost the same. . . pornographic!
"But during the year, she reviewed all my stories for me, provided helpful insights into the characters, and questioned factual information: of course, she must hide these things from my father.
Shortly after the Playboy incident, I provided my two sons with the pornographic books and magazines I collected, pointing out the bookshelves I kept these books and magazines in case they wanted to read, give each of them the gift of "changing the body, changing the life": a teen book about sex and relationships, "the best book about teen sex.
In fact, I offered everything except a book I hid.
I don't remember why, today it's on the shelf with something else, but I think I was shocked at it (and liked it) as I read it, somehow, I think this book may be too much for my children.
They have never read these books.
They are teenage boys. -
They want pictures, music, action.
I think my child grew up reading the works of Henry Miller, Susie Bright, Pauline retch and Robert Olen Butler, but that hasn't happened yet.
I have pointed them to a site like Scarleteen and went to ask Alice, I know they have passed the message to friends, so maybe some interesting sex despite everything happening
There is a problem with being completely honest with children.
The conversation mentioned earlier: "Mom, if I had some friends come over after school on Friday and we make cakes, would you agree ? " Answer: "Well, no.
There is one more: "You know, children, I believe everyone is born bisexual.
Whether you like women or men when you grow up, or both, I will agree.
"Answer:" Oh, Mom, it's disgusting.
"Despite that, porn
The disclosure conflict still exists for me.
My son's "details" magazine subscription arrived earlier this year and was there when I browsed it before he saw it ---
Excerpt from my story in Best American love 2000--
In my kid's magazine.
I argued: he might never notice if I don't show it to him, yes, it includes X-rated writing.
But I was human and my name was in his magazine so I showed it to him.
I think he blushed a bit after reading, but, every parent knows that when you get this rare opportunity, you have to impress your child with your calmness.
My eldest son, who is now 16 years old and barely reads magazines like Playboy, prefers to spend his time reading skiing and music.
Is this healthy, not to mention sexy, growing up as repressed as I do, and every time I sneak a peek at the dirty things I 've been through, I'm shocked at porn, eventually become an adult who sees the world through sexual haze, and write all my craziest fantasies and never get tired.
My mother grew up in a repressed age and ended up being an old man, having secret fun from porn stories.
Will my kids get bored with sex before they turn 21, or will all this openness mean that their future pain and healthy relationships will be reduced and only time will tell them, but I hope after that
At the same time, however, I look forward to the possibility that they will get their own brand --
"Surprise us and one day hear them speak ill of me to their teenagers," Your grandmother wrote . ".