#4 training reasons one of the most interesting phenomena I have witnessed when dealing with human sexuality is the ability of people to train themselves to reach orgasm.
Anyone who ever masturbated took part in a self-study program that taught them how to climax.
Before we talk about female training, let me give an example of male sex.
I used to work with a male who often masturbates.
During his masturbation, he fantasized about having his partner lean over the edge of the sofa for a rear penetration instead of anal sex.
For months, he used the same fantasy to help him reach his climax in masturbation.
This affected his sex life.
When he had sex with his partner, he found that he was losing his erection and found it difficult to reach orgasm in any other position.
The only way he can reach orgasm in actual sex is to imitate what he does in his masturbation fantasies.
Basically, he has trained himself how to get off the bus.
It's not just men who train themselves.
In fact, the training men do usually does not interfere with their ability to reach orgasm in actual sexual intercourse.
Unlike women.
Women train themselves in two ways.
First of all, they use specific techniques to train themselves to reach their climax.
Second, they use certain fantasies to train themselves to orgasm each time.
Let's talk about these two issues.
When women start masturbating, they try multiple ways to achieve their goals.
Once they find something that works, they stick to it.
Let me give you an example.
A woman who worked with me masturbated with a vibrator for about ten years.
She has to use the same vibrator every time because she claims that there are no other vibrators that will bring her to orgasm.
With a sexual partner, she will pretend to orgasm, and then excuse to go to the bathroom, where she will achieve a real orgasm with a vibrator.
For ten years, the young woman has reached her climax with the same toys and the same technology, and she has taught her body how to reach her climax.
Because her partner's penis is not her vibrator, it cannot do the job.
It is commendable that he did try all kinds of things to help her, but the problem was not solved by him alone. She had to re-train her body.
The second training method started even before a woman masturbated.
Once girls begin to fantasize about men, they begin to train how their bodies reach orgasm.
I also have an example to share, which also illustrates the fact.
A woman who works with me while masturbating has been relying on the same fantasy for almost twenty years.
Her preference is rape fantasy, she is the victim, not the victim
Violent coercion to have sex with multiple partners.
Fantasy involves different scenes, locations, and men, but it's basically the same.
Even if she tries to have other fantasies that eventually deteriorate into rape fantasies before she reaches her climax.
The only time she can reach a climax with her husband is when they try to perform her fantasies.
Like another woman, she had to re-
Train her thoughts on what excites her and what will bring her to a climax.
I share these stories with you because climax training is one of the biggest reasons why it is difficult for women to reach orgasm, but it is often not recognizable.
The only way to get rid of old training is through experiments.
The more you two try something different, the more likely she is to find something else that can help her reach her climax.
When you read the next two chapters, what you need to remember is that there are many reasons why women are harder to reach orgasm than men.
These include social pressures not to enjoy sex, lack of trust in relationships, anatomical differences between men and women, and limited climax training.
Knowing what might hinder your sexual relationship will help you determine the best course of action for enjoying sex that is satisfactory to both parties.
Female Orgasm and foreplay are not optional for men who want to please their partner.
I say this because I work with a lot of guys who hate foreplay and they just want to start working without realizing that foreplay plays play an important role in female orgasm.
I 've also worked with men who like foreplay as much as women.
It is important to be aware of what the foreplay should be to make her feel good because at this point you may already be in a state of excitement.
She may not have reached that point yet.
In this regard, we will first discuss the female sexual arousal cycle and compare it with your cycle.
We will then take a look at some types of foreplay that you can try with your partner to help prepare her for her orgasm physically and mentally.