A woman is tied to a bed with leather cuffs. Blindfolded.
Hit with a whip flo.
The continuous body of the air
Break the climax.
These are clear and lively images 50 lampshades romantic trilogy prompting Teresa, 24-year-
Old Toronto woman, take steps to spice up her life and look for a partner who likes weird sex as much as she does.
"This book is so exciting," said Trisha . " She asked not to use her last name.
"Like, 'Oh my God, I want this relationship.
"For those who are not in the Lord, Fifty Shades are British writer E. L.
James sold 31 million copies worldwide.
It's a month-long story about annassisteele-year-
The old virgin who fell in love with Christian Gray, a handsome many
Millionaires bathe her with gifts and introduce her to the erotic fun of BDSM (
Slavery, discipline, domination/submission, abuse/masochism).
She agreed to be his obedient partner, hoping to win the love of the troubled hero.
After devouring the trilogy
Fifty degrees Gray, fifty degrees dark, fifty degrees free
Trisha changed her profile on the dating service.
She has been looking for a "sugar daddy" for the past 18 months ".
In addition to the people who would indulge her in "shopping, spa, vacation, staying overnight in town", she added a new requirement: "seeking unique S & M relationships. ”Trisha, a. k. a.
BlondeBarbie explained in her profile update, "I know there is no such thing as Christian Gray, but please have at least some of his talents.
She is not the only one who wants to turn the fantasy of fifty colors into reality.
According to the website, from January
In July, Christian Gray, Anna Stasi Steele and Fifty Shades appeared in the female image across North America, including 4,931 Toronto Women, 4,484 Vancouver women and 986 in Ottawa, 10,657 kilometers in New York City.
One of the polls.
According to 6 million members conducted by the website, women like to succumb to the idea of dominant men like gray, and men think the idea of obedient Steele is exciting. (
It is important to note, however, that when it comes to being bundled and whipped, it is not just the area of women.
Many women like to dominate sex, and many men like submissive characters. )
Of course, it is not possible to independently verify the statistics of the site, or compare them with the experience of other dating sites such as Lavalife and Match.
Tell the stars they don't follow this.
But the interesting thing is, at least, it seems certain that there are a lot of women that are attracted to the idea of dominance.
A relationship of obedience
Staci Newmahr, assistant professor of sociology at Buffalo State University, author of play on the edge: abuse, risk and intimacy, said she was not surprised at all, after being opened by books, women were inspired by changes to online profiles.
After all, it's a standard fairy tale, she says.
Deep in the heart is the noble strong distant man met the Virgin amused by his take-out
Charging the way and determined to change him by adding whip and chain.
However, in a society where women go to college, IQ tests score higher than men, with glass ceilings everywhere, and it's so strange that so many people want to be obedient in terms of sex.
In fact, there may be 50 reasons for wanting to get weird.
One of the big problems is that it's hard for human beings.
Wired wants to take on the role of sexual obedience or dominance.
This is the opinion of computational neuroscientist Ogi Ogas.
Author of billion evil thoughts.
"It seems to be as important as our sexual orientation," Ogas said . ".
"We are born with a tendency to lead or obey.
The vast majority of women tend to be sexually obedient, and most men tend to be sexually dominant.
However, quite a few men prefer to be obedient in terms of sex.
Ogas said: "while women prefer to go smoothly in sexual relations, this will never translate into social relationships.
"In the conference room, women can be fully dominant and prefer to be submissive in the bedroom.
There is no contradiction there.
"But there may be more than that.
Many women say they get pleasure from serving their partner, giving up control, dressing up and fancy, adding spice to the dull sex life.
Trisha recently told the Star that "I just want someone to control the situation," he appears shy and gentle.
Talk and avoid eye contact.
She said she's been in control.
The relationship in the past was submissive, but because her last boyfriend preferred "vanilla sex", she gave up the odd sex.
"But reading Fifty Shades has given her a renewed interest in BDSM.
"My mind is always thinking about school, work, money, parents," said a student at the University of Toronto . ".
"When I was really engaged (
In a submissive role)
I focus all my energy on this. It’s amazing . . .
You can do your thing and escape for a while.
Give up the decision-
Production is a common habit among male and female subordinates.
That's why some professionals make decisions during working hours, such as giving up control in the bedroom.
Historian Elspeth Brown understands the appeal of the book to the ordinary middle class
Mom, take care of your career and manage your family.
"I totally understand the fun of not having to make another decision.
You're tired.
You have to make decisions all the time, "said Brown, an associate professor of history at the University of England who studies the history of gender and sexuality.
"It's a pleasure to have someone in charge once in a while.
She explained that the dominant
The relationship of obedience is not to break the imbalance of power.
Instead, it is an exchange of powers, agreeing to roles and restrictions orally or in writing.
The couple has a safe word, that is, the submissive (or bottom)
Can be dominant (or top)
When this situation is not timely.
Lisa, 34, is active in the BDSM community in Toronto.
She is a switch which means sometimes she is the top and sometimes she is the bottom. (
She plays a demanding role in academia, and she says she prefers to play a sexual submissive role with her boyfriend. )
She said that to a large extent, she has a traditional balance of power relationship with her boyfriend.
But when it was time to play, Lisa put on her collar and gave up control.
"It's nice to go home with this guy who can take care of me.
"It's sexy, it's fun, it's a release," Lisa said . " She asked not to use her real name.
Some feminists attacked the book, saying it was against women.
Others say putting this taboo topic first makes our women feel more comfortable exploring their sexual orientation.
Lisa thinks she's a feminist, and she says it's not contradictory to oppose violence against women and then obey a man who will whip flo, crutches and paddle.
Giving up control and submission is actually "very powerful", she said ".
"This is how I gave it to myself.
It's a force for me because I say to myself, 'These are my needs, these are my needs, 'and it feels good.
This is what I choose to do. . .
I know that I have control over other aspects of my life and it gives me comfort to let go.
"Not only is it exciting to give up control, but the character --
Play and pedophile wear-
Leather, latex, corset
Add an extra layer to the experience.
Susan Wright of the National Union for sexual freedomS.
Groups that advocate for alternative sex may attract men and women who desire more, BDSM said.
She said the success of the trilogy prompted a surge in the number of Americans participating in the BDSM event.
"Some people just want to give them (sex)
Life, but it's hard for some people
"People want more intensity," said Wright, a spokesman for the group . ".
"I don't think it's hard for us.
I think it's hard for us to be dominant or submissive.
We need more intensity for our sex life.
One of the great benefits of BDSM, she says, is that sex is much more intense than regular sex, and Wright says he is a sexual submissive who has been married for 19 years.
Others echoed her comments.
It was nice when Lisa and her boyfriend had sex without any tangles --
But not as wet as they were when they played the role. playing.
Trisha says she will have a stronger climax when she is in a submissive role.
The gray trilogy inspired her "true adventurous spirit," and she is now willing to be spanked, put on a nipple clip, use a hanger rod, a device that has cuffs tied at each end, fix them on your wrist, ankle, or knee to keep them separate.
Since I met a overlord through the website
They are currently negotiating terms.
She is considering a written contract similar to a gray draft from Steele.
The Toronto man who fantasized about being her "sugar daddy" wants someone he can deal with rudely, who will dress up like a female student, a cheerleader or wearing leather and latex.
Trisha has no opinion on this.
She likes characters.
Toys to play
Handcuffs, hanging gear and swings.
She drew a line anywhere that caused the bleeding.
Debra Hepburn Nick, an educator at the Institute for Sex, Gender and Reproductive studies at Indiana University, said there was little research done in the BDSM community.
But it is well known that people are often introduced to the community by their partners, but few know why someone is attracted independently.
Because the scope of behavior is so wide
From being tied up with a silk scarf to being beaten by a whip --
It is difficult to obtain accurate figures about the number of BDSM practices.
Also, not all practices in a similar community
The soul of thought, some people will only become eccentric in private.
According to the Playboy reader survey, 1983 of Americans occasionally engage in BDSM-related sex, with 11 men and 17 women attempting slavery.
Ten years later, Janus's Report on Sexual Behavior found that among the 3,000 Americans surveyed, men and women said they had some sexual experience with sado. masochism.
Wright suspects the number is much higher, but believes that many couples simply think that their sex life is odd and do not connect themselves to BDSM.
A 2008 poll conducted by the coalition surveyed 3,000 people and found that men and women were obedient and dominant.
One thing that many experts agree with is that BDSM is not a pathological symptom of abuse or trauma but is within the scope of normal erotic interest.
Herbenick of the Kinsey Institute said several studies that have been completed have shown that their psychological traits are similar to those of the general population.
For Trisha, obedience comes down to: "Excited-seeking.
I live on the edge.
She says she wants to push herself to the limit and see how much she can put up.
"I chose to participate in my way of life," she said . ".
"It's not like someone is abusing me.
Reasons for the 50-tone trilogy (ahem)
The climax of sex-
Since the release of the 50-color trilogy, sales of sex toys and erotic literature have been heating up in the Toronto adult store.
Especially small stainless steel balls that tighten the muscles of the pelvic floor --
As the heroine of this book uses
Has been bouncing on store shelves in recent months.
Although you are the only partner in Canada
Ben-sex store
Wa ball in the back-
There is a great demand for orders and items such as leather floats, leather binding and binding tape.
Sales of goods increased by 9 percentage points;
Sales of pornographic books rose by 12 percentage points.
The publication of E. L.
James books encourages women to consider exploring weird sex
Boss Sarah Forbes
Roberts recently saw a new face on Queen Street. W. shop.
Interest in roles
On Sunday, August, games, gear-binding and power games prompted the store to host a 50-tone gaming workshop. 12.
"We have a lot of people asking us what to do next," Forbes said. "They are very interested in some of the sex scenes in" Fifty Shades of Gray, want to incorporate it into their romantic life with their partner. "Roberts.
"People give more permission to talk about these fantasies and put them into action.
So we see a lot of people coming in to buy products related to the book and asking how to start playing with the power exchange agreed by both parties.
"Sedution, ben-the largest adult boutique in the province-
Chantal Naudtownsend, floor manager at Yonge St, said the wa ball doubled. store.
She also noticed a growing number of women talking openly about sex and toys.
"When a woman comes in to see Ben --
They would say, 'Oh, I can't believe I'm talking about this, but I 've been much more comfortable since I started reading this book.
I have heard (a lot)from customers.
"Across the street from Northbound Leather, owner George gioris said there were some new sales faces in the store, the number of customer calls on northbound's website increased and traffic increased.
Overall, sales have increased by 5 percentage points, says Giaouris, but the specific items mentioned in the book, such as handcuffs and eye masks, have risen by about 20 percentage points, his shop hosts a fetishist night every month. (
The next one is Sept.
8 shallow Slot Lounge on University Street)
Giaouris said sales peaks are common, reviewing the growth following the release of the film 9 weeks and Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty series.
"Whenever something touches people's imagination, it will allow people to start exploring again," he said . ". “But (Fifty Shades)
Is unique because it is more than one
Millions of best sellers attract the imagination of people who have these ideas but never know how to explore them.
Ms. StarA in Toronto is tied to a bed with leather cuffs. Blindfolded.
Hit with a whip flo.
The continuous body of the air
Break the climax.
These are clear and lively images 50 lampshades romantic trilogy prompting Teresa, 24-year-
Old Toronto woman, take steps to spice up her life and look for a partner who likes weird sex as much as she does.
"This book is so exciting," said Trisha . " She asked not to use her last name.
"Like, 'Oh my God, I want this relationship.
"For those who are not in the Lord, Fifty Shades are British writer E. L.
James sold 31 million copies worldwide.
It's a month-long story about annassisteele-year-
The old virgin who fell in love with Christian Gray, a handsome many
Millionaires bathe her with gifts and introduce her to the erotic fun of BDSM (
Slavery, discipline, domination/submission, abuse/masochism).
She agreed to be his obedient partner, hoping to win the love of the troubled hero.
After devouring the trilogy
Fifty degrees Gray, fifty degrees dark, fifty degrees free
Trisha changed her profile on the dating service.
She has been looking for a "sugar daddy" for the past 18 months ".
In addition to the people who would indulge her in "shopping, spa, vacation, staying overnight in town", she added a new requirement: "seeking unique S & M relationships. ”Trisha, a. k. a.
BlondeBarbie explained in her profile update, "I know there is no such thing as Christian Gray, but please have at least some of his talents.
She is not the only one who wants to turn the fantasy of fifty colors into reality.
According to the website, from January
In July, Christian Gray, Anna Stasi Steele and Fifty Shades appeared in the female image across North America, including 4,931 Toronto Women, 4,484 Vancouver women and 986 in Ottawa, 10,657 kilometers in New York City.
One of the polls.
According to 6 million members conducted by the website, women like to succumb to the idea of dominant men like gray, and men think the idea of obedient Steele is exciting. (
It is important to note, however, that when it comes to being bundled and whipped, it is not just the area of women.
Many women like to dominate sex, and many men like submissive characters. )
Of course, it is not possible to independently verify the statistics of the site, or compare them with the experience of other dating sites such as Lavalife and Match.
Tell the stars they don't follow this.
But the interesting thing is, at least, it seems certain that there are a lot of women that are attracted to the idea of dominance.
A relationship of obedience
Staci Newmahr, assistant professor of sociology at Buffalo State University, author of play on the edge: abuse, risk and intimacy, said she was not surprised at all, after being opened by books, women were inspired by changes to online profiles.
After all, it's a standard fairy tale, she says.
Deep in the heart is the noble strong distant man met the Virgin amused by his take-out
Charging the way and determined to change him by adding whip and chain.
However, in a society where women go to college, IQ tests score higher than men, with glass ceilings everywhere, and it's so strange that so many people want to be obedient in terms of sex.
In fact, there may be 50 reasons for wanting to get weird.
One of the big problems is that it's hard for human beings.
Wired wants to take on the role of sexual obedience or dominance.
This is the opinion of computational neuroscientist Ogi Ogas.
Author of billion evil thoughts.
"It seems to be as important as our sexual orientation," Ogas said . ".
"We are born with a tendency to lead or obey.
The vast majority of women tend to be sexually obedient, and most men tend to be sexually dominant.
However, quite a few men prefer to be obedient in terms of sex.
Ogas said: "while women prefer to go smoothly in sexual relations, this will never translate into social relationships.
"In the conference room, women can be fully dominant and prefer to be submissive in the bedroom.
There is no contradiction there.
"But there may be more than that.
Many women say they get pleasure from serving their partner, giving up control, dressing up and fancy, adding spice to the dull sex life.
Trisha recently told the Star that "I just want someone to control the situation," he appears shy and gentle.
Talk and avoid eye contact.
She said she's been in control.
The relationship in the past was submissive, but because her last boyfriend preferred "vanilla sex", she gave up the odd sex.
"But reading Fifty Shades has given her a renewed interest in BDSM.
"My mind is always thinking about school, work, money, parents," said a student at the University of Toronto . ".
"When I was really engaged (
In a submissive role)
I focus all my energy on this. It’s amazing . . .
You can do your thing and escape for a while.
Give up the decision-
Production is a common habit among male and female subordinates.
That's why some professionals make decisions during working hours, such as giving up control in the bedroom.
Historian Elspeth Brown understands the appeal of the book to the ordinary middle class
Mom, take care of your career and manage your family.
"I totally understand the fun of not having to make another decision.
You're tired.
You have to make decisions all the time, "said Brown, an associate professor of history at the University of England who studies the history of gender and sexuality.
"It's a pleasure to have someone in charge once in a while.
She explained that the dominant
The relationship of obedience is not to break the imbalance of power.
Instead, it is an exchange of powers, agreeing to roles and restrictions orally or in writing.
The couple has a safe word, that is, the submissive (or bottom)
Can be dominant (or top)
When this situation is not timely.
Lisa, 34, is active in the BDSM community in Toronto.
She is a switch which means sometimes she is the top and sometimes she is the bottom. (
She plays a demanding role in academia, and she says she prefers to play a sexual submissive role with her boyfriend. )
She said that to a large extent, she has a traditional balance of power relationship with her boyfriend.
But when it was time to play, Lisa put on her collar and gave up control.
"It's nice to go home with this guy who can take care of me.
"It's sexy, it's fun, it's a release," Lisa said . " She asked not to use her real name.
Some feminists attacked the book, saying it was against women.
Others say putting this taboo topic first makes our women feel more comfortable exploring their sexual orientation.
Lisa thinks she's a feminist, and she says it's not contradictory to oppose violence against women and then obey a man who will whip flo, crutches and paddle.
Giving up control and submission is actually "very powerful", she said ".
"This is how I gave it to myself.
It's a force for me because I say to myself, 'These are my needs, these are my needs, 'and it feels good.
This is what I choose to do. . .
I know that I have control over other aspects of my life and it gives me comfort to let go.
"Not only is it exciting to give up control, but the character --
Play and pedophile wear-
Leather, latex, corset
Add an extra layer to the experience.
Susan Wright of the National Union for sexual freedomS.
Groups that advocate for alternative sex may attract men and women who desire more, BDSM said.
She said the success of the trilogy prompted a surge in the number of Americans participating in the BDSM event.
"Some people just want to give them (sex)
Life, but it's hard for some people
"People want more intensity," said Wright, a spokesman for the group . ".
"I don't think it's hard for us.
I think it's hard for us to be dominant or submissive.
We need more intensity for our sex life.
One of the great benefits of BDSM, she says, is that sex is much more intense than regular sex, and Wright says he is a sexual submissive who has been married for 19 years.
Others echoed her comments.
It was nice when Lisa and her boyfriend had sex without any tangles --
But not as wet as they were when they played the role. playing.
Trisha says she will have a stronger climax when she is in a submissive role.
The gray trilogy inspired her "true adventurous spirit," and she is now willing to be spanked, put on a nipple clip, use a hanger rod, a device that has cuffs tied at each end, fix them on your wrist, ankle, or knee to keep them separate.
Since I met a overlord through the website
They are currently negotiating terms.
She is considering a written contract similar to a gray draft from Steele.
The Toronto man who fantasized about being her "sugar daddy" wants someone he can deal with rudely, who will dress up like a female student, a cheerleader or wearing leather and latex.
Trisha has no opinion on this.
She likes characters.
Toys to play
Handcuffs, hanging gear and swings.
She drew a line anywhere that caused the bleeding.
Debra Hepburn Nick, an educator at the Institute for Sex, Gender and Reproductive studies at Indiana University, said there was little research done in the BDSM community.
But it is well known that people are often introduced to the community by their partners, but few know why someone is attracted independently.
Because the scope of behavior is so wide
From being tied up with a silk scarf to being beaten by a whip --
It is difficult to obtain accurate figures about the number of BDSM practices.
Also, not all practices in a similar community
The soul of thought, some people will only become eccentric in private.
According to the Playboy reader survey, 1983 of Americans occasionally engage in BDSM-related sex, with 11 men and 17 women attempting slavery.
Ten years later, Janus's Report on Sexual Behavior found that among the 3,000 Americans surveyed, men and women said they had some sexual experience with sado. masochism.
Wright suspects the number is much higher, but believes that many couples simply think that their sex life is odd and do not connect themselves to BDSM.
A 2008 poll conducted by the coalition surveyed 3,000 people and found that men and women were obedient and dominant.
One thing that many experts agree with is that BDSM is not a pathological symptom of abuse or trauma but is within the scope of normal erotic interest.
Herbenick of the Kinsey Institute said several studies that have been completed have shown that their psychological traits are similar to those of the general population.
For Trisha, obedience comes down to: "Excited-seeking.
I live on the edge.
She says she wants to push herself to the limit and see how much she can put up.
"I chose to participate in my way of life," she said . ".
"It's not like someone is abusing me.
Reasons for the 50-tone trilogy (ahem)
The climax of sex-
Since the release of the 50-color trilogy, sales of sex toys and erotic literature have been heating up in the Toronto adult store.
Especially small stainless steel balls that tighten the muscles of the pelvic floor --
As the heroine of this book uses
Has been bouncing on store shelves in recent months.
Although you are the only partner in Canada
Ben-sex store
Wa ball in the back-
There is a great demand for orders and items such as leather floats, leather binding and binding tape.
Sales of goods increased by 9 percentage points;
Sales of pornographic books rose by 12 percentage points.
The publication of E. L.
James books encourages women to consider exploring weird sex
Boss Sarah Forbes
Roberts recently saw a new face on Queen Street. W. shop.
Interest in roles
On Sunday, August, games, gear-binding and power games prompted the store to host a 50-tone gaming workshop. 12.
"We have a lot of people asking us what to do next," Forbes said. "They are very interested in some of the sex scenes in" Fifty Shades of Gray, want to incorporate it into their romantic life with their partner. "Roberts.
"People give more permission to talk about these fantasies and put them into action.
So we see a lot of people coming in to buy products related to the book and asking how to start playing with the power exchange agreed by both parties.
"Sedution, ben-the largest adult boutique in the province-
Chantal Naudtownsend, floor manager at Yonge St, said the wa ball doubled. store.
She also noticed a growing number of women talking openly about sex and toys.
"When a woman comes in to see Ben --
They would say, 'Oh, I can't believe I'm talking about this, but I 've been much more comfortable since I started reading this book.
I have heard (a lot)from customers.
"Across the street from Northbound Leather, owner George gioris said there were some new sales faces in the store, the number of customer calls on northbound's website increased and traffic increased.
Overall, sales have increased by 5 percentage points, says Giaouris, but the specific items mentioned in the book, such as handcuffs and eye masks, have risen by about 20 percentage points, his shop hosts a fetishist night every month. (
The next one is Sept.
8 shallow Slot Lounge on University Street)
Giaouris said sales peaks are common, reviewing the growth following the release of the film 9 weeks and Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty series.
"Whenever something touches people's imagination, it will allow people to start exploring again," he said . ". “But (Fifty Shades)
Is unique because it is more than one
Millions of best sellers attract the imagination of people who have these ideas but never know how to explore them.
Ms. StarA in Toronto is tied to a bed with leather cuffs. Blindfolded.
Hit with a whip flo.
The continuous body of the air
Break the climax.
These are clear and lively images 50 lampshades romantic trilogy prompting Teresa, 24-year-
Old Toronto woman, take steps to spice up her life and look for a partner who likes weird sex as much as she does.
"This book is so exciting," said Trisha . " She asked not to use her last name.
"Like, 'Oh my God, I want this relationship.
"For those who are not in the Lord, Fifty Shades are British writer E. L.
James sold 31 million copies worldwide.
It's a month-long story about annassisteele-year-
The old virgin who fell in love with Christian Gray, a handsome many
Millionaires bathe her with gifts and introduce her to the erotic fun of BDSM (
Slavery, discipline, domination/submission, abuse/masochism).
She agreed to be his obedient partner, hoping to win the love of the troubled hero.
After devouring the trilogy
Fifty degrees Gray, fifty degrees dark, fifty degrees free
Trisha changed her profile on the dating service.
She has been looking for a "sugar daddy" for the past 18 months ".
In addition to the people who would indulge her in "shopping, spa, vacation, staying overnight in town", she added a new requirement: "seeking unique S & M relationships. ”Trisha, a. k. a.
BlondeBarbie explained in her profile update, "I know there is no such thing as Christian Gray, but please have at least some of his talents.
She is not the only one who wants to turn the fantasy of fifty colors into reality.
According to the website, from January
In July, Christian Gray, Anna Stasi Steele and Fifty Shades appeared in the female image across North America, including 4,931 Toronto Women, 4,484 Vancouver women and 986 in Ottawa, 10,657 kilometers in New York City.
One of the polls.
According to 6 million members conducted by the website, women like to succumb to the idea of dominant men like gray, and men think the idea of obedient Steele is exciting. (
It is important to note, however, that when it comes to being bundled and whipped, it is not just the area of women.
Many women like to dominate sex, and many men like submissive characters. )
Of course, it is not possible to independently verify the statistics of the site, or compare them with the experience of other dating sites such as Lavalife and Match.
Tell the stars they don't follow this.
But the interesting thing is, at least, it seems certain that there are a lot of women that are attracted to the idea of dominance.
A relationship of obedience
Staci Newmahr, assistant professor of sociology at Buffalo State University, author of play on the edge: abuse, risk and intimacy, said she was not surprised at all, after being opened by books, women were inspired by changes to online profiles.
After all, it's a standard fairy tale, she says.
Deep in the heart is the noble strong distant man met the Virgin amused by his take-out
Charging the way and determined to change him by adding whip and chain.
However, in a society where women go to college, IQ tests score higher than men, with glass ceilings everywhere, and it's so strange that so many people want to be obedient in terms of sex.
In fact, there may be 50 reasons for wanting to get weird.
One of the big problems is that it's hard for human beings.
Wired wants to take on the role of sexual obedience or dominance.
This is the opinion of computational neuroscientist Ogi Ogas.
Author of billion evil thoughts.
"It seems to be as important as our sexual orientation," Ogas said . ".
"We are born with a tendency to lead or obey.
The vast majority of women tend to be sexually obedient, and most men tend to be sexually dominant.
However, quite a few men prefer to be obedient in terms of sex.
Ogas said: "while women prefer to go smoothly in sexual relations, this will never translate into social relationships.
"In the conference room, women can be fully dominant and prefer to be submissive in the bedroom.
There is no contradiction there.
"But there may be more than that.
Many women say they get pleasure from serving their partner, giving up control, dressing up and fancy, adding spice to the dull sex life.
Trisha recently told the Star that "I just want someone to control the situation," he appears shy and gentle.
Talk and avoid eye contact.
She said she's been in control.
The relationship in the past was submissive, but because her last boyfriend preferred "vanilla sex", she gave up the odd sex.
"But reading Fifty Shades has given her a renewed interest in BDSM.
"My mind is always thinking about school, work, money, parents," said a student at the University of Toronto . ".
"When I was really engaged (
In a submissive role)
I focus all my energy on this. It’s amazing . . .
You can do your thing and escape for a while.
Give up the decision-
Production is a common habit among male and female subordinates.
That's why some professionals make decisions during working hours, such as giving up control in the bedroom.
Historian Elspeth Brown understands the appeal of the book to the ordinary middle class
Mom, take care of your career and manage your family.
"I totally understand the fun of not having to make another decision.
You're tired.
You have to make decisions all the time, "said Brown, an associate professor of history at the University of England who studies the history of gender and sexuality.
"It's a pleasure to have someone in charge once in a while.
She explained that the dominant
The relationship of obedience is not to break the imbalance of power.
Instead, it is an exchange of powers, agreeing to roles and restrictions orally or in writing.
The couple has a safe word, that is, the submissive (or bottom)
Can be dominant (or top)
When this situation is not timely.
Lisa, 34, is active in the BDSM community in Toronto.
She is a switch which means sometimes she is the top and sometimes she is the bottom. (
She plays a demanding role in academia, and she says she prefers to play a sexual submissive role with her boyfriend. )
She said that to a large extent, she has a traditional balance of power relationship with her boyfriend.
But when it was time to play, Lisa put on her collar and gave up control.
"It's nice to go home with this guy who can take care of me.
"It's sexy, it's fun, it's a release," Lisa said . " She asked not to use her real name.
Some feminists attacked the book, saying it was against women.
Others say putting this taboo topic first makes our women feel more comfortable exploring their sexual orientation.
Lisa thinks she's a feminist, and she says it's not contradictory to oppose violence against women and then obey a man who will whip flo, crutches and paddle.
Giving up control and submission is actually "very powerful", she said ".
"This is how I gave it to myself.
It's a force for me because I say to myself, 'These are my needs, these are my needs, 'and it feels good.
This is what I choose to do. . .
I know that I have control over other aspects of my life and it gives me comfort to let go.
"Not only is it exciting to give up control, but the character --
Play and pedophile wear-
Leather, latex, corset
Add an extra layer to the experience.
Susan Wright of the National Union for sexual freedomS.
Groups that advocate for alternative sex may attract men and women who desire more, BDSM said.
She said the success of the trilogy prompted a surge in the number of Americans participating in the BDSM event.
"Some people just want to give them (sex)
Life, but it's hard for some people
"People want more intensity," said Wright, a spokesman for the group . ".
"I don't think it's hard for us.
I think it's hard for us to be dominant or submissive.
We need more intensity for our sex life.
One of the great benefits of BDSM, she says, is that sex is much more intense than regular sex, and Wright says he is a sexual submissive who has been married for 19 years.
Others echoed her comments.
It was nice when Lisa and her boyfriend had sex without any tangles --
But not as wet as they were when they played the role. playing.
Trisha says she will have a stronger climax when she is in a submissive role.
The gray trilogy inspired her "true adventurous spirit," and she is now willing to be spanked, put on a nipple clip, use a hanger rod, a device that has cuffs tied at each end, fix them on your wrist, ankle, or knee to keep them separate.
Since I met a overlord through the website
They are currently negotiating terms.
She is considering a written contract similar to a gray draft from Steele.
The Toronto man who fantasized about being her "sugar daddy" wants someone he can deal with rudely, who will dress up like a female student, a cheerleader or wearing leather and latex.
Trisha has no opinion on this.
She likes characters.
Toys to play
Handcuffs, hanging gear and swings.
She drew a line anywhere that caused the bleeding.
Debra Hepburn Nick, an educator at the Institute for Sex, Gender and Reproductive studies at Indiana University, said there was little research done in the BDSM community.
But it is well known that people are often introduced to the community by their partners, but few know why someone is attracted independently.
Because the scope of behavior is so wide
From being tied up with a silk scarf to being beaten by a whip --
It is difficult to obtain accurate figures about the number of BDSM practices.
Also, not all practices in a similar community
The soul of thought, some people will only become eccentric in private.
According to the Playboy reader survey, 1983 of Americans occasionally engage in BDSM-related sex, with 11 men and 17 women attempting slavery.
Ten years later, Janus's Report on Sexual Behavior found that among the 3,000 Americans surveyed, men and women said they had some sexual experience with sado. masochism.
Wright suspects the number is much higher, but believes that many couples simply think that their sex life is odd and do not connect themselves to BDSM.
A 2008 poll conducted by the coalition surveyed 3,000 people and found that men and women were obedient and dominant.
One thing that many experts agree with is that BDSM is not a pathological symptom of abuse or trauma but is within the scope of normal erotic interest.
Herbenick of the Kinsey Institute said several studies that have been completed have shown that their psychological traits are similar to those of the general population.
For Trisha, obedience comes down to: "Excited-seeking.
I live on the edge.
She says she wants to push herself to the limit and see how much she can put up.
"I chose to participate in my way of life," she said . ".
"It's not like someone is abusing me.
Reasons for the 50-tone trilogy (ahem)
The climax of sex-
Since the release of the 50-color trilogy, sales of sex toys and erotic literature have been heating up in the Toronto adult store.
Especially small stainless steel balls that tighten the muscles of the pelvic floor --
As the heroine of this book uses
Has been bouncing on store shelves in recent months.
Although you are the only partner in Canada
Ben-sex store
Wa ball in the back-
There is a great demand for orders and items such as leather floats, leather binding and binding tape.
Sales of goods increased by 9 percentage points;
Sales of pornographic books rose by 12 percentage points.
The publication of E. L.
James books encourages women to consider exploring weird sex
Boss Sarah Forbes
Roberts recently saw a new face on Queen Street. W. shop.
Interest in roles
On Sunday, August, games, gear-binding and power games prompted the store to host a 50-tone gaming workshop. 12.
"We have a lot of people asking us what to do next," Forbes said. "They are very interested in some of the sex scenes in" Fifty Shades of Gray, want to incorporate it into their romantic life with their partner. "Roberts.
"People give more permission to talk about these fantasies and put them into action.
So we see a lot of people coming in to buy products related to the book and asking how to start playing with the power exchange agreed by both parties.
"Sedution, ben-the largest adult boutique in the province-
Chantal Naudtownsend, floor manager at Yonge St, said the wa ball doubled. store.
She also noticed a growing number of women talking openly about sex and toys.
"When a woman comes in to see Ben --
They would say, 'Oh, I can't believe I'm talking about this, but I 've been much more comfortable since I started reading this book.
I have heard (a lot)from customers.
"Across the street from Northbound Leather, owner George gioris said there were some new sales faces in the store, the number of customer calls on northbound's website increased and traffic increased.
Overall, sales have increased by 5 percentage points, says Giaouris, but the specific items mentioned in the book, such as handcuffs and eye masks, have risen by about 20 percentage points, his shop hosts a fetishist night every month. (
The next one is Sept.
8 shallow Slot Lounge on University Street)
Giaouris said sales peaks are common, reviewing the growth following the release of the film 9 weeks and Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty series.
"Whenever something touches people's imagination, it will allow people to start exploring again," he said . ". “But (Fifty Shades)
Is unique because it is more than one
Millions of best sellers attract the imagination of people who have these ideas but never know how to explore them.