Ian Kenner is a sex consultant and the best in the New York Times
Sales author, chart last Thursday's blog.
Read more on his website. Porn, schmorn.
I don't care what anyone says, any day of the week, it's better to have sex with a real person than porn.
In bed, we think porn is equivalent to professional wrestling: False and superficial.
Like living on garbage.
When you can have a good meal, you can have the bear and Gatorade.
But when you live in la vida loca, there is not always time to have a balanced meal, and for many men porn is here.
Easy, lazy, fun, oh yeah, it's right there.
It's always there-
Even if we don't want.
I estimate that men masturbate 50 to 500% more often than men who do not have internet porn.
So if a man usually masturbates once a day, he may now masturbate two or three times a day.
If he masturbates three times a week, he may now draw with graphics 15 times a week.
Ian, Joey Bihar, someone else is talking about you on the Internet when you're 17 and single, which may not be a problem.
But if you're 40 and have the courage, it's a problem --a real issue.
Some people may still feel mentally that they are 17 years old, but they can't have sex like that.
Their bodies have changed and their refractory period has also changed, which is the natural interval between erection.
Therefore, women today face more sexual satisfaction challenges than ever before.
More and more men suffer from what I call sexual attention deficit disorder.
Just as people who really have add-ons are easily distracted, men with SADD are used to the high level of visual novelty and excitement that internet porn offers, so much so that they can't focus on the act of authenticity with real women.
Men with SADD tend to find themselves bored or impatient when having sex and suffer from mechanical "men-
Function ": they may be physically awakened or even erect, but they do not reach the peak of spiritual awakening.
People with SADD may also lose the magic of real sex because of masturbation.
They are not running on a complete tank, physically, mentally, and of course not sexually.
This is a serious situation, and there is no sign of any change in this new erotic world order.
My guess is that in terms of the various ways porn will change our love life, we just see the tip of the iceberg.
Porn is not just a problem, or a problem, or a quick release, it's part of a major shift in our sexual mindset.
Just as the sexual revolution has led to "sexual happiness", "Sex and City" has led to the mainstream of rabbit vibrators, and my prediction is that cyber pornography will affect everything in our sex life.
Good or bad-
And it doesn't have to be worse.
After all, masturbation is a healthy activity.
When a couple has a good relationship, they are actually more likely to masturbate than when they are not.
Masturbation is not something we can do just because we "don't get anything --
This is what we do because it is human health.
In fact, this is often a bad sign when people stop masturbating: it may mean they are depressed or have health problems.
With this in mind, there is no problem with pornography in a healthy relationship.
When couples share pornographic content together, this can make them more excited about each other's sexual behavior and become a strong intimate experience.
Pornography is also a healthy way to explore taboos.
Fantasy is fantasy for a reason.
Because they're not real.
Porn provides a place to explore things you can't usually explore.
People should not be judged as porn they like, and there is not always a direct relationship between what we look at and what we really want to try.
Of course, this is also uncomfortable for a woman who cares about the use of pornography by her male partner.
She may have a lot of questions about her man's porn use: whether he likes something very odd, whether he wants me to look different, whether I should perform, etc.
In fact, a person usually does not think of these things.
He's just enjoying some porn, that's all.
But if these issues of silence accumulate over time, they can really damage a relationship.
Once a couple starts talking about pornography, it's a stimulus to their relationship --
Share Fantasy, talk about good and evil, etc.
Also, it's not hard to remember that there was a time before porn, or at least when it's not so easy for ordinary people to access porn.
Of course, people watch magazines or videos.
But they also rely on their imagination and their erotic memories.
This is one of the biggest downsides of porn for me.
So consider taking a break from porn and making your imagination your guide --
You might be surprised where it will take you.
If you have questions about pornography and how it affects your relationship, please visit our expert forum in bed where we will answer your personal questions.
It's funny you said that.
My husband is 6'3 "and 150!
I can't add weight to him. he is completely healthy.
We want a baby.
Yes, we watch TV together.
So maybe we do attract people we like.
I'm 5'5 and 115. Jessica & JJ. . . . .
American men are fat because they are rich in food, easy to buy and cheap.
I have lived in Europe for 6 years.
They ate less because the food was expensive. But. . .
Fast food restaurants are not everywhere.
I live in a city where there are a lot of European immigrants who are as fat as everyone else after living here for a while.
But you can't just say "American man"
"I don't have overweight men in my family, and my husband is not overweight, and most of my colleagues
The workers were not overweight. . .
However, they are all Americans :)
If this guy used another pun in his article, I think I might throw up everywhere.
Hey girl it's better to keep in shape during spring break or man won't want to be you.
Just kidding, they'll scold you no matter what happens.
No one has ever had sexually transmitted diseases because of masturbation.
In addition, an unexpected pregnancy has never occurred due to masturbation. Think about it!
CNN censors are idiots!
When what is the article about, how do you set up a review procedure to remove comments containing the word p o r n?
The author does not know what he is talking about.
Medical research has shown that the health of men is positively affected in many ways by each of your orgasms.
I have never heard of a cap on this.
Did you hear the phrase "use it or lose it?
My wife and I often watch TV together.
She sometimes looks alone.
I have a lot more sexual desire than she does, so p o r n is a relationship protector because I don't pursue her a lot and don't burn her out.
Refraction period?
-I can go again (
Again and again, and. . . )
Almost immediately.
My wife and I are over and she has had enough and I have not saved the day. 10 times a day? No problem.
The author obviously has some functional barriers that cannot be executed.
Baby, my limit is 8! Hehehe.
I may be baked for this, so naked with me on this issue.
What's different, I found that in p ()
Compared to the real woman, the various situations and types of s3xual touches that appear in the scene are far more than your partner, if only you, the most likely thing to do in bed and herWith p()
All your feasts are in front of you.
From the monotony of violence to the gentle tenderness to the fiction of science and technology [
I don't like it personally, but some people like it. ).
It's not as passionate as being with a real woman, but it's all about the feeling of power and control, and how the scene broadcasts itself to real women, and how the scene goes
I hope it makes sense).
In addition, images and videos of women in p ()
Rnographic's situation will not complain or complain to you like a real woman does, and they will not charge you for the next day maybe r @ ping them, although this is agreed by both parties. great article. . .
Maybe now all people will focus on the actual people and have a real relationship beyond their hands and imagination. . .
Personally, I am a picky person, but I am not a rich person either, so my choice of partner is very limited.
I don't smoke or drink, and I'm not a party lover either (
So I don't go to the bar)
So it really needs adults.
Interactive style.
150, only 5'7lbs does not help, because many women like tall men.
I was rejected twice because I didn't smoke or drink (
Do not like to breathe in cigarette smoke, and do not tolerate drunkenness).
So my choice is limited for a woman. . . very limited. (
Many women who are not well-off or educated are either too big to take drugs, drink or take care of themselves or do anything that really makes them better).
Keith, this is not a response to you.
I pressed the wrong button. What a Bozo!
Find a real job instead of trying to pass on the Victorian perspective to the public. ! Loudest LOL!
This is a great article! !
If you're gayboodemand peanut butter! ! !
I lost a girlfriend because I wanted to watch with me.
After that, she felt very threatening even though we talked about it.
My best advice: hide it, don't talk about it.
Admit you have it if someone asks, but never let her see it!
There are some topics that you have never discussed with others, and this is one of them.
Personally, I am a picky person, but I am not a rich person either, so my choice of partner is very limited.
I don't smoke or drink, and I'm not a party lover either (
So I don't go to the bar)
So it really needs adults.
Interactive style.
150, only 5'7lbs does not help, because many women like tall men.
I was rejected twice because I didn't smoke or drink (
Do not like to breathe in cigarette smoke, and do not tolerate drunkenness).
So my choice is limited for a woman. . . very limited. (
Many women who are not well-off or educated are either too big to take drugs, drink or take care of themselves or do anything that really makes them better).
Another thing for me is that I also like modest women. . .
I don't like women with exposed clothes or women with big breasts.
I like a woman who is dressed in ordinary clothes. . .
Breast without DD (
Anything on C scared me)
No dragon tattoo on the back, or something crazy like this.
I think I'm really picky.
You're not too picky, you're just too boring. Yeah, probably.
I guess the way to "go out for a walk, run, jog" or "go to the movies" or "Let's take a walk on the beach" won't cut it off again, huh?
No matter what your ship is, Kat.
Not for me, but you must be a princess in the eyes of others. =)
It doesn't matter if you wear a skirt and a skirt. I'm not talking about this.
It's more like telling a woman to be herself.
Don't be something just because of a woman on TV or another woman you see across the street.
Women in skirts or skirts are beautiful, but you don't need to dress it up like a Barbie to impress.
Morality begins again.
I like a woman with her own head on her shoulder, not a brainwashed woman who has a view of what is beautiful and what is not stuck in their mind
I can imagine Kate. . .
She may look like Keith Richards and have the mental power of Oz. . . . THANK YOU! ! ! !
Nice to see the decent outside!
Don't abandon yourself. western women are at the bottom.
Traveling in international, you will definitely find someone better than you, and you will also enjoy a better life by going out on a trip.
Don't be swallowed up by the lies of the media. American women are what you must satisfy.
Women like Kat don't even know to advertise on escort sites.
Why are you smart?
Respect men want that kind of trailer crap?
Do smart things and swear not to use low quality Amerisk @ nks. Gosh!
Don't forget that masturbation will blind you lol!
It's like someone sent you from 1960s. Poor you.
My husband works alone for a week and I know that's all he's looking at him (p)o r n.
He messed up a computer and the computer had to be reformatted and he lost all the data.
He also did it on his laptop.
I know he's addicted and found it easy to fix in a week.
If lucky, I might get it once on the weekend.
On the other hand, my sexual desire will be very happy three times a day.
As for all those who oppose American women, they are fat and lazy.
My weight is lighter than when we got married and I love hiking, camping and kayaking outdoors.
He used to be more active when he was together for the first time, but now he says he's too fat and too tired.
It's a sad excuse because all he has to do is lie there and I can handle my things. LOL!
Usually, although it is difficult for him to stick to it. . . sigh.
I try to be fine with all this and don't make a man feel bad because his ego is a fragile thing.
He said I was the most naughty girl he had ever seen and I thought it was hard for him to accept so I also adjusted it to help with the enduring factor.
I have never deceived my husband and will never deceive my husband.
I do understand, though, why so many coups are hovering.
I don't know what else to do.
Of course, it's fun to give yourself a big "O", but it's more fun to be with someone you love.
* Sigh * don't do this. . . don't . . . . . do . . .
I want to sleep with the author and his lips are good!
"The internet is destroying marriage.
I don't know if it ruined my marriage, but it definitely ruined my keyboard.
I do this because women don't want me.
I don't have a bachelor's degree.
I don't live in town.
I don't have my own place.
Whatever happens to a woman with a man with a bus pass, just because she loves him?
What if I really like bear and Gatorade? Am I so bad?
Palin's fault.
Sarah Palin is the first naked vice presidential candidate I would like to see. Love that movie! LMAO!
Very creative photos!
What can I say? a man is a pig.
Most are superficial, focusing only on the aesthetics of the surface.
They allow the media to dictate their beautiful ideas.
Is it wrong to want your woman to look good for you?
After all, men are visual creatures.
What can I say? the female is a cow.
Most are superficial, focusing only on the aesthetics of the surface.
They let the media decide what they think of handsome.
This works as well as Chris's posts, as the percentage of women is as high as 96% in the US at leastS.
Pay attention to one's height first.
Tell me which one can be controlled by an adult, height or weight?
People who focus on height emphasize the uncontrollable factors of adults;
So she is superficial.
Rocboy-no, I understand, but the relationship is more than just the appearance, and more.
People who are based on everything else are superficial.
I think there should be more.
What about a woman who helps you in life, is loyal to you, really cares about you, loves you?
By the way, I am both charming and thin for others.
Just because I say other features doesn't mean I'm automatically fat and ugly.
Please do not make this assumption).
I am also very smart and do business on my own.
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Feminism: The Rise of Male masturbation.
Because I 'd rather listen to this alone. Men are too weak. minded. . . women will out-
Why are you angry?
There's a lot to blame on my TV because people think what other people should look at and there's a lot of false information about women and men.
If you watch TV, it's usually a perfect person or someone with a problem.
You will never be an ordinary person.
This is how most of us grew up watching and listening to cow poop!
"With this in mind, there is nothing wrong with the p o r n in a healthy relationship.
When couples share p o r n together, this can make them more excited about each other's s e x and become a strong combined experience ". Oh my GOSH! !
What fake website did this guy order his "degree" from "?
A pile of 100% pounds of pure garbage.
What's next, will they tell us, is it "good" to eat big mac and cheese puffs?
Is smoking good for your health?
It is absolutely "safe" to drink and drive ". Gimme a break.
Destroy healthy relationships, break marriages, and break families and families.
There is nothing "good" about it.
You want to break a good marriage or a healthy relationship, the fastest way to do it is to have a good relationship with p o r n.
It breeds jealousy, distrust, and other problems.
Not to mention that it will poison your mind.
This is something that needs to be avoided like plauge.
No matter the idiot said sharing between husband and wife can strengthen the relationship, he is definitely a man.
A very stupid person.
Men who start looking at the rubbish will send a message to their "important others. . . .
Hey, you're not beautiful enough, not beautiful enough.
Basically, you're not enough. Yeah. . . . .
Good bonding technology. . . . .
Tell you they're not enough partners.
Give them a good sense of inferiority and make them feel insecure. Very good advice. Author. Hey, guess what.
I have some advice if you really want to get in touch with your partner.
Send her flowers, write her a love letter, send her a card, take her to dinner and plan a weekend together.
Who knows, maybe you will have something of your own, instead of sitting together and watching others do degrading things on TV.
No more real words are said on this page.
I agree 100% with you! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
I totally agree-the best you said!
Let me have a rest.
I am glad that I am a woman of integrity, so I do not have to deal with people like you;
Cards and flowers, ughhhh talk about a break!
This idiot must be a Republican.
Did your wife ask you to write this article? . . .
How did this article get so many comments?
I don't think the article on the North Korean conflict has attracted so much attention, which is actually half-important.
Or maybe your woman can close your Dam word holes once in a while and open your mouth!
Or occasionally send us a dirty photo at work.
Don't point any more, know we need to be opened!
We don't even need too much. after all, we are men!
I totally agree with you that women who only focus on height are also superficial.
It is indeed two-way.
I agree, however, that as a woman of 5'11' I have the right to want a tall man!
What the dwarfs want is a shallow tall man!
I'm sorry, I'm tall, you 'd better be tall too!
I can say that as the wife of a man who carried me to do this all the time, I did not like to do so, and I told him that I felt betrayed.
It hurt my marriage because I was frustrated when I found out.
The author is not exactly like a Don Juan. . .
This young man's paper is a pile of rubbish from beginning to end. Ding ding.
You're right. totally agree.
P orn is responsible for very unrealistic expectations and lacks real intimacy and emotional passion, not to mention hair
Causing a man's reaction
If they "practice" on a real woman, they will know it will take more than 5 minutes.
What you see does not affect what you are doing right?
That's why millions of dollars are spent on advertising every year.
Nisciuna virgogna. ?
Because only men use the Internet.
Your man will be surprised how many of us like it too!
Give me a gay man kissing any night of the week.
I love Gatorade and bear sugar! !
The key to this is that it does end the marriage because the man is addicted to the marriage and doesn't want to be with his wife.
Then she did want to know what was wrong with her when she wanted it, but he didn't.
God does not want this in marriage.
You all should pay attention to fire prevention because it deals with this issue in marriage.
My wife is getting sick fat and cold.
Instead of getting divorced or derailed, I might as well punch a punch on the keyboard.
Where were you 10 years ago?
You're definitely not from the East Coast, you look good and have some morals. Get a behind-the-
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