When I first met my wife for four years (
Three years)
She looks very conservative.
It is suitable for my personality style and upbringing.
She moved in six months later.
When I opened the package, I found a book that I didn't realize was her diary.
The first page describes the sexual relationship she had with a married man in her 50 s when she was 23.
I don't study anymore, and I haven't mentioned it.
When we got married, my wife
A friend and her husband come to dinner.
The friend was intoxicated and told about the days when they played strip games in college.
Play poker with four guys and end up with a carnival. I was shocked.
For this reason, my wife and I had a quarrel for a month.
She claims that her friend made a mistake and boasted when he was drunk.
We have children now.
When I was looking for a lost TV remote in my wife's bedside table, I found several sex toys, underwear and platform "strip girl" shoes.
I have never seen these things before.
She is always very conservative in bed.
Should I face her?
I think she has a hidden side.
My gut tells me to leave.
Right intuition?
If you believe that your wife really lives a double life of a stripper dancer, a sex worker, or something, your intuition is right.
However, if she has a fixed job in the workplace or stays at home with young people and has no other evidence of alternative life, it is your pride to tell you to leave.
But with seven years of history, you need to know more than what you write here. Confront her (not accuse).
Ask her why she put the sexy stuff around her.
Maybe she's fantasizing but showing a conservative side because she thinks that's what you want.
She may hide the passion she feels must suppress.
You need some answers.
Then, in the absence of knowing what is real, accepting marriage counseling together may reveal the story behind the people you play in your mind.
My parents divorced in 1997 and I am now 30 years old.
My dad is still with the woman he got married in a few years.
My parents are still fighting.
My sister still has a grudge against my dad.
She had surgery recently and her parents were in the hospital.
They got along very quickly and my dad commented on my sister still living with my mom.
I'm getting married soon and my mom wants me not to mention my dad or send a group text with him and her . . . . . . . and more.
I don't want to spoil my relationship with friends, boyfriends, work life, etc. over them.
I don't understand why they don't stop fighting.
I think the impact on me now is greater than ever.
Their whole dynamic could be a win-win situation. lose and push-
So nothing changed.
Or, one party can never forgive the other or accept that they may also contribute to division.
At the same time, you no longer need to feel the victim of "being in the middle" or their hostility.
Her orders for how to treat your father are her needs, not yours.
Even if you don't text together, you can still have anything to do with him of your choice.
If she finds out, it's not her business.
The only thing they can "spoil" your own relationship is if you continue to entangle their negative relationship.
See personal therapists and listen to professional feedback on how to separate your own decisions and choices from their decisions and choices.
Don't break up the tip of the day because it hurts pride;
Understand what is real and why it happens.
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