I 've been dating a lovely man for the past few months, but our relationship is risky because he can't cheer up.
He said he liked me very much and always looked excited.
Sometimes he gets hard.
But he lost his erection when we had sex.
In a few cases, it is difficult for him to reach a climax.
I have always been a very sexy person and I want a lot of sex.
We have little.
I found it hard for me to reach a climax even if he tried something else because I was thinking about it all the time.
Why can't he fuck me?
What happened to him?
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Anxious hand.
This is the case.
He likes you and wants you to be happy
But he was also worried that he might not have an erection (
Especially if he really likes you and/or this is a problem in past relationships).
These worries mean that he doesn't work hard at all when you try to have sex, or that he loses his erection when he tries to penetrate you.
Of course, it also confirms what he is most worried about.
Because he's anxious. sure enough -
This problem is repeated.
He can't hide this from you, he can't treat it asoff.
Losing your shame, embarrassment and fear (
And caring for others may know his difficulties)
Sex can be a source of stress, not a pleasant thing.
It's no surprise that in this case, many men, regardless of their sexual orientation, avoid talking about it, want it to be better, or avoid love and sex.
What is the reason for male erection and orgasm?
In addition to the sexual concerns outlined above, he may have other causes of erection problems.
May any of the following apply to him?
Why don't you think he likes you?
It's not uncommon to respond to a partner's erection problem. blame.
You may not get him excited or attractive enough or he really doesn't love you.
Some women worry that erection is a sign of partner infidelity or a sign of a planned end to the relationship.
These concerns are understandable, but they do not help, adding to the already anxious situation.
Make the conversation difficult
Because you don't want to ask him if you're the problem.
Also, if he struggles on an awkward issue and feels like you 've turned everything into you, it can cause tension --
When he thought it was all his difficulties
You described him as loving and he wanted to please you in terms of sex and he told you that he found you attractive.
You may not want to assume that these things are not true, but that you want to focus on building your self-confidence and trust him when he tells you good things about yourself and your relationship.
What are the benefits of focusing on other areas of your relationship and things that might make sex more enjoyable (see below).
Making it more acceptable is a common problem and it would be helpful to learn more about erection.
You and he may want to read this excellent answer to the question of erection from Corey Silverberg.
He may also want to try to relax and mindfulness techniques to reduce his anxiety, especially those related to sex.
If he feels he needs additional support to address any potential problems that cause the problem, or to speak to the treating staff.
You may all want to redefine sex, so you target the stress of orgasm or his erection for all sexual experiences.
Or define "appropriate sex" as sex involving penetration.
You can decide what is normal for you.
This may include the fact that he still feels happy from the way you touch his penis, even if he is not difficult.
Some men can still reach orgasm without erection.
Or, he may not like to have any contact when he deals with erection problems.
Even if he doesn't have an orgasm, you can.
Reading something that may bring you happiness, or thinking about what you think about sex can allow us to explore together.
If penetration is important to your orgasm, you may want to consider using sex toys alone, or using sex toys in a close relationship, whether or not he works hard.
This requires a sensitive introduction so that he doesn't feel like you're turning to a toy because he can't perform.
Usually in the case of persistent erection problems, people avoid having sex, but also avoid comfort and hugs.
Sharing physical emotions with a massage, comb your hair, hand in hand or otherwise can help you feel connected, even if you don't have sex as often as you 'd like.
One thing to avoid is himself.
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These herbs for erection problems or ordinary "Cuba" will not do anything at best, in addition to wasting your money.
But in the worst case, they can cause health problems and even hurt his body.
If this continues and he is suffering from it, then he may want to keep his GP confidential, he can rule out that there is no other health problem that causes his sexual problems and/or refer him to a therapist
Petra Boynton is a social psychologist and sex researcher working on international health care, research and interpersonal relationships.
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