When she lost her job in the recession, Scarlett O'Kelly, a single mother, began selling herself ---
She was surprised to find that all her clients were decent and considerate men.
Emily HouricanI wrote that now she tells everyone in a new book, and I guess that's a question most women ask themselves: if it does happen, if everything else fails, will I sell myself? Will I really do this? Scarlett O'Kelly (obviously not her real name) will anyone buy it? You can answer these two questions with a loud "yes.
They bought her.
It's a deal from the recession.
The need to induce, but ultimately confuse Scarlett with all her prejudices about herself and men who pay for sex.
"I'm a prostitute, or an escort.
"I am also an ordinary mother, starting to live," Scarlett wrote between the sheets, an Irish version of Bell De Joel's secret diary of the call girl.
This is of course the key to the problem.
When all the other options fail, she needs to raise three children, which is the motivation of Scarlett.
She described herself
"But she stressed that she looked like" any other woman of my age ".
I'm almost 40 years old. I have three children.
Mark, the chest is drooping, I am not thin throughout the process, I have a considerable weight, I am about 16 ".
One of her findings is, "Men have never commented on anything but praise.
We might think they want these super.
Thin, beautiful women, but they don't.
Her insistence on absolute anonymity extends to speaking only over the phone, so I can't judge her assessment of her physical charm ("Trust me," she insists, but in terms of her voice, she seems practical and important --of-
Fact, articulate
Her accent was a little rustic while speaking, but I couldn't say anything.
She does sound like any of the hundreds of women we meet.
A little nurse, an office administrator. Nothing hooker-ish at all.
However, Penguin, her publisher, has thoroughly reviewed the accuracy of the book.
"Their legal department is involved to make sure everything I write is true," she told me . ".
Obviously, in order to protect herself, she disguised and invented herself when necessary, but the substance and her response to all this was written.
Scarlett was not an addict, she was not forced and had no history of sexual abuse, and she did not find the job degrading.
"I think it's bad, it's bad, but that's not the case," she said.
"She was anxious to stress that she didn't make a lot of money.
She deliberately kept her customer base at a fairly low level, many times ---
School holiday, kids not at father's weekend-
She can't work at all.
"There is no luxury," she insisted . "
"This is all the basics I have reported.
This is not the cost of a private education or spa trip, which is very basic ---
Mortgage, bills, stuff like that.
"So how did she have sex with more than 150 men over a year? Of course, it all started with money.
Just separated from her husband, with three children under the age of 10, Scarlett lost her ordinary office work when the recession came, and her efforts to find other jobs came to nothing, she soon discovered that she had no financial safety net at all.
Meanwhile, her predecessor
The husband's working hours were cut and he stopped paying for repairs.
She was then told how much social benefits she was entitled.
"I cried home. . .
"It won't even have any impact on my monthly mortgage repayment," she said . ".
Faced with a terrible situation, facing the possibility of losing the roof above the child's head and having to further deprive them of what they need to thrive, Scarlett decided to use what she felt was the only remaining resource-herself.
"Growing up in poverty is very bad for children's health --
She stressed.
"I can choose to either provide food for my children or go on.
I know that if they find out, it will affect their emotions to some extent, but I am equally sure that if my children grow up in poverty, it also has social and emotional implications.
Scarlett looked closely at the price range, local supply, various sexual behaviors and health and legal issues.
She decided to target the high end market and charge 400 euros at the 90 minute introductory session, followed by 300 euros in 60 minutes
Minutes of meetings and avoid any more professional festivals.
She met them at the hotel. -
She rotated to be cautious. -
Sometimes very shortlet apartments.
She advertises online.
Obviously, there are a lot of advertisements in every corner of the country.
She found a man worthy of respect. -
How much will she lose if they are found.
She deliberately dressed herself as "a real Irish woman"Mark and all "--
Because she found many men complaining about having no soul experience with foreign girls, they may have the perfect body, but they despise their clients.
To her surprise, she likes the job and often finds herself as passionate about sexual contact as a client.
"I'm open --
She told me.
"I love having sex and I'm easy --
About the body, so yeah, I found out I really liked it.
"I hope not a very good man ---
Desperate, dirty, horrible men who have reduced the sex industry because no one else will own them.
This is not the case.
"What she finds is lonely men, who often get married or have feelings, who are unable to communicate with their wives and partners, who are stressed and desperate and feel unappreciated and isolated.
Scarlett quickly realized that what these people wanted was compassion and thoughtfulness, just like a decent person.
It made her sound like an egg tart with a heart of gold, except for the reason she never forgot to be there.
In the end, it's all for money, but it would be better if she could get through it with some degree of humanity, even warmth.
In addition, Nice is good for business, there are as many men she can adapt to, willing to pay her price, and several loyal regulars.
Scarlett became more and more disgusted with men, but she found the opposite.
"I may be a little better for men these days.
I might think they're more human. -
More like a woman than I thought.
It's almost like the conversation that happened during the meeting, sex is secondary.
"They want emotional connections as much as women do when they make love.
I think if I knew when my marriage was in trouble, what I know now, I might have taken a different approach.
"This is not to say that the book is sensitive --
Fanatical reflection on the nature of men
Female relations.
There's a lot of sex there.
Description of different encounters, preferences, anecdotes
A wide variety of sex toys on the market and how these will help you, even a paper on the cause and treatment of premature ejaculation, and how
Guide anal sex (yes, there is a right and wrong way ).
Scarlett uses the same thing to write about sex. of-
The fact that she brings to everything else is clear.
It's hard to be porn. as-high-
Art, but it is approachable, open and honest-
I think, just like she played the escort role herself.
After her first meeting with a young farmer, Scarlett returned home and found a text message from her client saying, "Thank you very much, are you home ? "
"How many times have I eaten, I think --
Night, no follow-up-
No text, no thanks. you. Nothing.
Looks like a man knows money!
If you set a high monetary value for yourself, you will set the threshold high and they will show more. . .
I think it's respect.
"In fact, men --
Once it comes to money, it seems that the vitality of women will change completely and never change in the most obvious way.
"No one expects me to have a good time," she noted . ".
"I'm not worried about what they think of me, and if they're going to call me, how smart or witty they think I am, so I'm more able to let go and enjoy myself.
"These days she's out of the business, and it's strange," she found out, "I'm going back to the old way I'm more conscious in bed, what am I thinking, "What would he think of me", it's crazy!
The worst part, she says, is secrecy.
"It's too hard.
Juggling, lies, I find it stressful.
The longer it lasts, the more secrets I have to keep, and the worse it is.
I have to prepare an answer for where I have been, I have a different email address, SIM card, phone. . . it was awful.
"Is she worried that after writing this book, she will now be exposed like Bell de Joor in the UK (she was found to be Dr. Brooke Magnanti, A research scientist at the University of Bristol) "Yes, I'm afraid I'll be hunted down.
But I love to write this book, it's a fascinating time in my life.
Like everyone else, I still need income.
I wish I was smart enough to be hard for anyone to recognize me.
"By the end of the year, as an escort, Scarlett began to find that the supply of services in every corner of Ireland had increased significantly and prices were falling.
She's making it increasingly unrealistic to ask for a fee of 300 to 400 euros, and in any case, she never intended to stick to it for a long time --term.
A regular client gave her a legitimate role.
As his father, he worked his time, and was impressed by the way she ran the escort business, Scarlett readily accepted.
She did worry that there might be strings attached to the offer, or at least it might be possible to get her disrespected, but as he said in the book, a conversation with "Williams" reassured her.
"When you talk to someone very openly about your needs, your needs and your sex life, and have sex with them for money, there is no need to lie," the question --of-factly.
She went back to work in the office these days. -part-time --
In strange times, only sex is for money, when "my own salary can't pay the extra cost that a person sometimes has ".
When this happened, Scarlett sent a text message to her former client and it turned out very quickly.
"I appreciate it, it's not something the public wants to admit, but when I send a text message to my original client saying that I'm free for the next few days, my work will be organized in a few hours.
"She has any responsibility for women who may have read her book and think: 'This sounds grand, I think I'll give it a try ,'--
"It's not my responsibility," she said firmly, only to find herself having more unpleasant experiences than she did.
"I am responsible for my actions. how do I take care of myself and my family? that's all.
I'm on a date. it's not a big deal.
I realize that if I start dating seriously, it can be very harmful if someone finds this out.
Need a very special, very open
People who want to understand it.
"However, when the machine matured, she could imagine telling her children.
"Obviously I really need to think about the meaning of this, but I think I can tell them when they grow up.
Why pretend that life is easy, life is not easy, it is difficult, it is full of difficult decisions, it is a difficult decision.
But it got me through it, it put a roof on our head, it reached its purpose in this, and in the end, I hope that one day I can look back and say, "I made a wise move there.
"I made my child quite open and did not accept things of superficial value, questioned things and made up my mind. " She pauses.
"I hope they will appreciate that I have done what I think is best in difficult times.
"For any woman reading this, if it were me, what kind of advice would she give them," I had to discuss various possible outcomes myself before discussing the issue.
What would you do if you faced him and he said, "Yes, I am.
Are you ready to hear it? What are you going to do next? How are you prepared to solve the problem and solve your sexual difficulties. I'm pretty sure some women know or suspect that their husbands are there. . .
"So, according to Scarlett's experience, are we a country with self-confidence ? "
From the clients I have seen, there are some men who have been married for many years who still don't know their way around their bodies.
I often think, 'If I were your wife, it was your effort, I wouldn't have been so impressed. . .
"Even the younger generation, all their porn
The star did not really doubt her.
"They tried a lot of things, but did they do it for it ? " In the end, this is her constant repetition, "Women need to be responsible for their own happiness.
Tell your man: "This is what I like, I want to show you . ".
"Yes, she thinks she may have sent several men home to give their wives a better idea of how to get results in bed, but the bottom line is that good sex is a personal responsibility.
"We are all unique in terms of sex. our needs and desires are different. it doesn't matter. it doesn't matter.
Sit down and have a frank discussion.
Everything is for communication.
"Scarlett O'Kelly's" Between Sheets "was published by Penguin Ireland for 14 euros.