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Am I too dependent on my vibrator?
Image source: iStockSource: I was alone in the bedroom at my first orgasm.
I have slept with a few people but have never reached a climax.
Until a friend insisted on buying me a vibrator as my birthday present, and then before my life really changed, she stared at the vibrator she said for three months, but again
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Since three months ago, after a series of horrible lovers seemed to prefer having sex with themselves rather than with me, my relationship with the vibrator has become more serious.
In fact, if I had to choose between the Dick and the vibrator for the rest of my life, the vibrator would win every time.
It's not really a problem for me.
I like masturbating and often masturbating.
If I am particularly horny, once a day, or several times a week on the plateau)
Taking masturbation is a healthy and positive sign that I am a sex person who likes to know about my body.
In addition, studies have shown that people with frequent masturbation and frequent orgasm have better sleep, less stress and improved overall satisfaction.
It speaks for itself.
Image: SATCSource: my reliance on my vibrator to reach its climax makes me a little worried.
While I can get myself in less than five minutes when I ride alone, when I use the vibrator with the rest of the people present, it's not always that simple.
Once, while having sex with someone, he asked me if he could watch me come with my vibrator before we went on.
When I do it myself, I am eager to prove how easy it is and laugh at the potential of getting him off just by myself, and I am more than happy to help.
Not in five minutes.
I can't let myself.
This is sexual equivalent to swinging at a dance recital, fully confident that you will choke your performance on the stage.
We finally moved on when he came, but I didn't.
Despite some of these examples, my vibrator is still an integral part of my climax.
There is only one example I remember when masturbating, I orgasm with my fingers alone, there is no vibrator when making love, I never reach orgasm.
Like I said, I really like my vibrator.
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A 2009 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine surveyed 2000 American women (aged 18 to 60)
About the use of their vibrators, more than half of them were found (52. 5 per cent)
In one of the three scenes, I used to use vibrators at some point: alone, having sex, or as part of the foreplay.
Most of the time (83. 8 per cent)
, They are used to stimulate the clit, and they are used as an insertion device during the time of 64.
I want everything she wants.
Picture: When Harry met SallySource: I was worried even though I knew there were many women like me: am I too dependent on my mechanical toys to reach the climax?
Should I go there myself?
Will my clit become numb to the point where it cannot be recovered?
Is there really too much masturbation?
Most doctors or sexologists are very consistent in their advice, and you can never masturbate too much unless it starts to interfere with the overall enjoyment of your relationship, work and life.
But I'm not worried about this, or about the kind of drastic masturbation that can lead to quarrels, irritation, or pain (
This usually means you need to take a break or see a doctor as soon as possible).
What I'm talking about is if you can masturbate so much that it will suppress your ability to reach orgasm when you have sex --or at all. Room for one.
Picture: iStockSource: according to science, you may masturbate too much technically.
The good news is that it is difficult to achieve this.
Your body and mind can adapt to orgasm in a specific way, which means that you struggle when you try to reach orgasm in different situations.
It's called a special form of masturbation (IMS)
Defined as any method of masturbation that is not easily reproduced by the partner's hand, mouth, anus or vagina.
For people who use vibrators, this can be a situation where they are used to very high vibrations, or for people with penises, it is a very strong grip.
It may be simple because it is too used to starting porn.
Either way, IMS proves that this is not necessarily a case of "too much" masturbation, but "too much of a style ".
For those with vulva, orgasm is actually made up of three different stages: wake-up, climax plateau, and orgasm.
Especially in terms of vibrators, they can greatly reduce the amount of time it takes to reach the climax stage, which means you can minimize (
Or completely eradicate)
The time you spend in the excitement and climax stages.
These two stages of orgasm are characterized by vaginal lubrication, swelling of the clit, increased blood flow, and release of progesterone and no.
These two hormones make us feel very good.
When we start using vibrators like I do, we reduce them significantly (
Or completely eradicate)
The time we spend in these two stages.
Dr. Nikki Goldstein, a sexologist at home
Image source: Famous Australian sexologist Nikki Goldstein said the Gold Coast announcement, however, the main obstacle for most women to reach orgasm is mental.
"The component of the body is that every woman is different and will reach orgasm in different ways, but what really hinders orgasm is mental anxiety," she explained to whimn . ". com. au.
"For many women, they will be bothered by the idea that they are not normal or worried that they are having problems.
"This stress and anxiety stops the occurrence of pleasure and distracts someone's attention rather than letting them focus on stress.
There may be other negative thoughts that can prevent someone from reaching orgasm, which may be negative beliefs related to sexual, past trauma, and physical image issues.
Other than that, according to Goldstein, everyone is a different compound.
She said being able to reach the climax "is almost like a ritual of passing through sex women.
So the biggest obstacle is the first one to know what you can do.
The next obstacle is the climax of different types.
Some people find that stimulating the clit is the reason to help them reach their climax, others find that the stimulation is from G-spot.
But for those who experience orgasm from an external simulation, the next hurdle may be trying to get orgasm from an internal stimulus.
"In sex, using a vibrator is the last thing a person needs to be ashamed.
Picture: SATCSource: supply dif you are really too used to a way of orgasm, or just feel like you have changed in your daily life, you can re-train your friction or irritation with different forces
This may mean masturbating for a period of time without a vibrator, instead of watching porn, changing your position, using more lubricating oil to change friction or using your non-dominant hand.
In the end, masturbation should be considered an important and positive part of sexual life.
Ideally, you should not measure the success of masturbation or sex by whether or not to reach orgasm.
Instead, try to treat it as an additional reward, not the final onegoal.
In this way, you can first relieve the anxiety that prevents you from reaching a climax, and you can enjoy the behavior itself.
As long as you change things from time to time, you will have some of the best sex with yourself.
It's for me.
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