My husband was the unfortunate victim of my writing career.
Years before we were together
Before I turned my attention to sexual health science, I worked with consultants, researchers and educators --
I took him to party for the opening of the porn film and Porn Art Gallery, and every time he just wanted to enjoy a simple roll in the hay, I made a new sex toy, the product I am reviewing for this or that publication.
On one occasion, we even took a photo with female health after testing and reporting a toy for a specific couple.
When one of his colleagues read the magazine at work and found the article published, I couldn't help feeling guilty.
By the end of the day, it had been circulated throughout the office.
I felt more guilty because he didn't even want anything fancy.
He just wanted me.
For research purposes, the toy I brought into the bedroom did not help him at all.
When I asked him for details, he said, "It feels strange . ".
I was disappointed.
The first time I used the clit vibrator, it was a revelation.
In the past 15 years, the vibrator has grown from a novel sex toy to a "personal massager"
High Designend gadgetry—
Gadgets that have become particularly good at bringing orgasm to women.
This makes sense.
Sometimes women need a little extra help in partner games to experience wake-up.
Sometimes, in a single round of sex, toys can do better than fingers.
After all, we have that nasty climax gap to make up.
According to the national sexual health and sexuality survey conducted in 2009, 91% of men said they reached a climax in their last one-off behavior, while only 64% of women could report the same.
Shouldn't we get extra help? Recently, we have seen the rise of "guybrator" and other male solatians, and toys designed for men far exceed the minimalism of the product, such as Fleshlight.
To be honest, I think the trend is complicated.
Do men also need extra help to reach orgasm? With my man, toys don't enhance anyone's sex life except me.
So, for many men, the door to using sex toys alone seems to be a partner game.
In a 2009 paper published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the researchers found that among the men they surveyed --
About half of people have used vibrators.
Most people have used them with their partner in foreplay and/or sexual intercourse. (Only 16.
6% of people used it when masturbating alone.
) When people are asked what causes them to join the vibrator in their intimate life, the most common reason is to want to please a partner or to help them reach their climax.
This is Paul William, 51. year-
Old straight man with partner using vibrator and other toys for at least 25 years.
Despite his attempts at Fleshlight, most of his toys are used in the background of partner games, except for a few prostate irritants.
"I like it very much, so I like the toys she likes," said William . ".
When asked if Toys enhance his own sexual experience, or if they are primarily used to serve a partner's pleasure, he says both are true.
"I saw her get off the bus," he said . ".
Of course, William is not an abnormal person.
Tristan Wade Mark said: "In terms of the man's attitude towards the vibrator, we-
"In fact, there are more men buying vibrators than women.
Therefore, the idea that men are intimidated by them is a myth.
"In fact, 24 when looking more closely at the JSM survey.
It is reported that 2% of men have used vibrators in the past year, up to 44.
8% of people have tried them at some point in their lives.
So where is the rise of men?
Weedmark said that specific sex toys come from "the last decade" and that sex education has increased, which has prompted greater acceptance and comfort for the theme of sexual pleasure and toys.
Women and men become more relaxed when talking about what they want, and they are more open to conversations around ways to enhance their sexual experience.
"With this ease, people have a greater understanding of what might feel good.
"My clients who use vibrators are often surprised by the way they change their sexual experience," said Dr.
A resident of Astroglide sexologist.
"It's not just reinforcement, it's learning to get and experience sexual pleasure from a part of the body, except for the penis.
They use them in the Pussy (behind the ball) and they report that their orgasm has become stronger;
They found that instead of simply feeling the joy of concentration in the groin, they felt the orgasm in other parts of the body, from the nipple to the fingertips.
"In a study conducted by Canadian researchers, the initial realization of this sexual possibility is also evident.
For the purposes of this study, participants were given a couple's vibrator who were asked to incorporate it into their sex game within six weeks. In the end, 71.
It is reported that 4% of men like the vibrator, saying it enhances sexual pleasure while 87.
8% said they planned to continue using the vibrator after the study.
The accounts were confirmed when I spoke to Billy prosida
Comedian and host of the male prostitute podcast.
"Procida uses toys in partner games, but usually prefers to play it on its own.
Procida said: "If I stimulate myself under the lace up long enough, it will definitely lead to the process.
The establishment of feeling.
I will do this when I feel I am patient.
Then, maybe 15 to 25 minutes later, my orgasm broke out the most.
"Procida used his finger when he first tried this stimulus.
"It feels like you're exploding," he said . "
"It feels like the whole world is coming out of my dick Barry.
"Later he even tried to use a small bullet vibrator, which enhanced the feeling, but it was hard to keep it in place.
But when the creator of Pulse Hot Octopus sponsored his podcast and sent him a free unit, he said it pushed things to a new level.
Other toy suppliers have followed suit.
"Male sex toys have always been as rich as female sex toys, but they are a little behind," said LELO's CMO Steve Thomson . " LELO is a luxury designer.
"The women's luxury market has improved significantly.
The male luxury market is stagnant.
However, 2014 saw the emergence of a critical mass in which men began to demand the same quality and design from their entertainment products as women did.
So, in 2015, LELO released a series of vibrating prostate massagers that immediately became one of their best-selling products.
"More and more men are trying all types of sex toys," confirmed Leo Debois
Founder of Adamstoybox
Com opened at the end of 2013.
"Specifically, we see that men are more likely to be attracted to the prostate --
Like they just found out!
In addition to gay men who already know how to stimulate prostate sensation, heterosexual men are actively looking for ways to get rid of sex, and they do so by using open toys to their partners.
It's kind of like sexual liberation for men.
"Even smaller businesses are in action.
"I entered the male masturbation product market mainly in the business market, but also supported by strong interest and knowledge of human sexuality," said Brian Sloan, 2014, he funded the creator of Autoblow 2 through Indiegogo.
"Even in 2008, there were many innovative products in the women's toy market, but men mainly made up of handmade toys.
Artificial vagina.
I know that robots are changing other industries and I think that if I apply similar principles to male masturbation, I will have a product that men will buy and like.
"So he created a design similar to the other sleeves --
Based on the product, but the user does not have to move up and down.
"I started to create a product that not only feels better than the existing handheld products, but most importantly, operates automatically," Sloan said . " "So this person can experience what's happening to him without him doing it himself.
Mentally and physically, I think, in most people's opinion, it is better to feel that you do something than you do it yourself.
"Toy developers seem to make a difference in this huge male sex toy.
Guybrator, prostate massager, and even the business of the sleeves is very hot.
LELO specifically reported that sales of male anal rides increased by nearly 200% in 2015.
"What is driving the market," Sloan asked . "
"This is the simplest question: the natural impulse of a man to ejaculate.
What is far away
The effect on male sex games, so if every man runs to his local sex store to buy something that will poke, if I buy a male masturbation for my husband to celebrate our wedding anniversary, should I push him to explore this form of sex alone, because he seems to prefer to keep it simple, does he completely miss "especially male solatians," or "sleeves," or whatever their name is, "Thomson said, they may feel "strange" to one person, realistic to another, and better to another than real.
More importantly, "strange" does not necessarily mean "bad ".
But male masturbation accounts for only part of the male sex toy market.
There are countless other ways for men to express their sexiness as well as any number of entertainment products.
This means they can choose not to use any product.