Regret: Have you had it several times?
Don't we all have a few?
But when it comes to the diversity of sex, their quantity and nature depend largely on your gender.
A recent academic study of more than 25,000 people shows that while women are more likely to regret occasional sexual intercourse --
For more than half of the time, they quickly moved to the bedroom.
Men are more likely to lament not having sex with more partners.
Is a man really hard?
Regret not planting more wild oats, and regret harvesting them?
61-year-old writer Linda Kelsey shared their sexual journey with her five-year-old partner, 59-year-old osteopath Ron Marx --
The lessons they learned from them
The Daily Mail
Linda said: After several appointments, I should never agree to go to Paris for the weekend with the barrister.
Obviously we don't have anything in common, but he is handsome, well built, and I am in the mood to take risks.
As a single woman in her 20 s, there is nothing to stop me.
Sex Revolution and years of working in the exciting atmosphere of the World Citizen Magazine, sex is the topic of daily discussion, which gives me permission to do what I like.
But two nights of perfunctory sex and two days of listless conversation confirm this for me (
No doubt, for him
There has been no progress in this relationship.
With the loved ones in Paris, it was the most romantic city and wanted me to go home alone in my London apartment, which reminds me --
Not the first time-
That kind of casual sex is not my natural fit.
I can't be opened at all by a man I don't really like, no matter how good he is --looking he was.
Without this emotional connection, sex seems pointless in the best case and belittles in the worst case.
Instead of curled up together after sex (
If that's what you can call it)
Each of us retreated to the edge of the bed, completely unfamiliar at night.
I 've reached out to a dozen sexual partners and by today's standards it's not a big deal, but if you think I 've been married for six years from the age of 19 and had only one-time relationships before, that's not trivial either.
Then I got together with the man who became my child's father when I was 32, and 15 years later I got married to him.
We kept our absolute loyalty for 23 years until we were apart while I was in the middle50s.
I'm six-
End the year gap between marriages
1 and start a 23-
How easy a year's relationship was, almost every man I went out with went to bed.
But my experience in Paris, in the last episode of a series of equally disorganized encounters of men I barely know, confirms casual sex, in the heat of the moment, it will take me to a slippery slope and let me lose myself.
Respect me and make me feel contaminated, not satisfied.
I used to flirt with indulgence, but what is certain now is that I don't want to separate sex from relationships.
Monogamy system of I useful.
In those years when marriage could be mixed up, I gained greater joy in two longer marriages --
Although there is no continuous distance, the emotional relationship --
Therefore, sexsatisfying.
My negative reaction to casual sex was somewhat influenced by the double standard of sex at that time. Even in the so-Called sex
Liberated men in their 60 s and 70 s respect getting as many women as possible to go to bed while labeling girls who are equally relaxed.
This is a double standard of personality that seems to be more common today.
There is growing evidence that girls
The fashion and music industry is sexier when it's getting younger
I have sex more than I think about whether or not they get pleasure out of it because they have to do so to get used to society.
At the same time, as the lyrics of many popular rap songs constantly remind them, girls who are free to provide sexual services are seen by men as useful sexual toys, and they have little value as human beings.
Now most women don't settle down until they are 30.
In addition, the possibility of drifting from one-time contact casually to another one-time contact seems limitless unless you are mature enough to apply your sexual brakes.
Thankfully, my experience in Paris encouraged me to go further on my own path.
Even after the end of my second marriage, I thought of becoming a "silver pirate "--
Like many new single women of my age, indulge in meaningless sexual contact --
Filled with my fears, I wonder if I will be better myself. Post-
Apart, I don't think it's necessary for me to make up for the sexual opportunities I lost when I was young.
In the six years between my 20 s and my 30 s, I was given a rich and diverse range of sexual experiences and, more valuable, I told me, with the disappearance of my second marriage, sexual confidence will not be restored by anything casual. I was lucky.
I was introduced to Ron at a party with a common friend, although we haven't seen each other for months and have started dating (
Three months after that, before we go to bed)
We have been together since then.
My sexual confidence is restored, but more importantly, I feel love and love again.
What I may be different from the women surveyed is that I don't regret that I have any partners because I have learned something very important from each of them --
For me, this casual sex is as unsatisfactory as eating 0 cents.
Fat Yogurt: it will not satisfy your desire and will leave something annoyingtaste.
But I will never know what I didn't miss unless I tried.
Ron said: not long ago, I met a woman I haven't seen for 35 years.
When we were teenagers, we knew each other in school. she told me that she was at a distance with me because I was "this arrogant and kind person"
Looks confident and seems to think that she is not in her circle.
I was stunned and I thought, "Why is it 35 years late that she is telling me this now?
In fact, I am always shy in front of girls and never feel particularly attractive.
However, according to her, I can choose a woman.
Of course, even if I know this, I doubt if I will.
From the very early days of my adolescence, I believe that I should look for a girl to be the future wife and mother of my child.
Looking back, I realized that I have grown up and believe that I should follow my parents faithfully.
They got married in their early 20 s and didn't have any sexual experience until my dad died 40 years later and they stuck together.
They never told me what a relationship should look like, but I still imitate what I know.
I'm not as inexperienced as my father was when he got married, but I don't have any casual relationships either.
At the age of 16, I lost my virginity and was with a girlfriend of the same age until I was 20 and I was loyal to her --
Although I spend most of my time living abroad with my family, we only met a few times a year.
I was surrounded by beautiful girls, but I refused the temptation.
When the relationship ended, I spent a year.
Long term love with another girl
Soon after, when I was 22 years old, I met a woman, and five years later I got married when I was 27.
There has been a nagging voice over the years --
Whether in my mind or directly from my peers --
Tell me I don't really live a life ".
Seems like all the other men of my age don'tstop sex.
Deep in my heart, though I have no risk
I am jealous of those who have the courage to explore more about sex.
The next morning after the wedding, I remembered two very different emotions --
I'm ashamed of myself.
The first sentence: "Oh, my God!
What have I done!
This will never come back.
But it was quickly overturned by the second thing after the search: the greatest relief.
The ring on my finger is my sanctuary to keep me safe in the comfort zone without further sexual risk and rejection.
My wife and I have been married for over 25 years and I have two daughters with her.
Marriage is a lifetime for me.
However, my wife had other ideas.
After all these years, I found myself rejected by the woman I thought would grow old.
I thought my life was over.
Who would want me when I was 49?
While I'm eager to mend my broken self, I don't know how to play the game again.
I was rescued from despair by a 16-year-old woman younger than me, who taught me the pleasure of loving sex.
Although we all know it's not life.
Long relationship, I enjoy guilt, it surprised me
Free entertainment for more than a year.
It is this kind of romance that makes me enjoy leisure and leisure. so-
This is the first free sex in my life.
There are many people --
The woman I met on the Internet stood together.
I even cheated someone in a few days because her emotional needs left me at a loss.
My behavior is a bit like a villain, but while it will shock my young self, my off-track behavior doesn't keep me awake at night --
They made me feel more like a man, I admit.
Because when my wife leaves, life doesn't end as much as I thought it would, but becomes vital, energetic and (finally)
There are enough sexual partners to rely on more than two hands.
When I was in my 50 s, I finally enjoyed the sex life I wanted to experience with confidence when I was young. My long-
Married friends looked at me with some envy.
I still live on the honor of that man.
But the truth is, I'm just doing what they 've been doing in their teens and twenties.
I can understand why the biggest sexual regret for most men is not having sex with more women, though they can.
Because, although my promiscuous period ismarriage (Not in advance. )
Take it out of my system, but take the confidence and experience it brings with me and make my "forever" relationship with Linda richer.
May it be long desired.