This week, photographer Jenna Andersen posted a photo of her child on Instagram.
This alone would offend the feelings of some parents, but this image creates resistance for completely different reasons.
Show her 4-year-old son and 21-month-
The old daughter sits on her parents' bed and plays with her mother's Hitachi wand.
Her daughter pressed the end of the toy into her eyes, while her son looked dizzy.
The original title of the editor after the controversy broke out wrote, "they call it 'Robot massager game' and like to trade back and forth. #sterilized.
Later she clarified that they "trade back and forth to find the most interesting effect"e.
, Vibrate your eyeballs ).
Then comment angrily.
Things like "you're crazy, I feel bad for your kids" and "you need help.
She deleted most of it. -
Prompting a woman to cheer up, "the comments you deleted are not scared because you have [vibrators] and they are shocked that you will make your child Touch It "---
But some criticism but respect is still allowed.
A woman explained why she opposed the image: "Not because it was not hygienic (though little eyes/mouth and vibrator gave me a little heebie jeebies), but because it was not appropriate at all
"Of course, Anderson also has her defense lawyer.
On Instagram, one of the few comments left right now is: "Even if she does use it as a sex toy, the children are playing, as long as she doesn't let her child participate in her sex and post photos, I think this picture is very harmless, very interesting/lovely.
The commenter added, "some of us are very open-minded about our children and how we talk about sex with them.
This is our right as parents.
Another supporter said, "so you posted a photo of your child playing with mom's little helper.
Sex is natural. . . .
"But then it appeared on the gossip blog, from my internet, where there were 10 comment pages, and the stranger discussed the possibility of her daughter contracting eye herpes, joked about the child protection service and made a charming comment about "How Big, How Big, How Big [her vag] after the elephant massager.
"Obviously these people are mature enough to make parenting decisions for others!
One commenter wrote, "Let your child play with the vibrator. . .
Disgusting, unsanitary, abnormal, not cool, not something that all parents will do, and not feed Instagram. . . .
I can't stand this woman.
Anderson was happy to talk to me about Hitachi huapura and explain how her kids played.
"I bought Hitachi because everyone assured me that I would be happy to use it" off-site"
Kind of like a label.
"I tried it, but found there were other vibrators I liked more," she wrote in an email . ".
"Now I have $60 electronics in one of my cabinets.
My child recently discovered it and immediately thought it was a "robot ".
Then she had a very clever quote: "posting photos to [] feels like an interesting way to comment on the changes between being a woman and being a mother, how strange it is to have these two selves meet in front of my children.
"Let's put aside a completely valid debate on whether posting a photo is a good idea ---
Very embarrassing in that respect. -
Your child goes online in such a wide way.
In this photo, so many angry reviewers responded that she had her children play with her vibrator in the first place ---
So pretend that this photo has not been posted to Instagram.
Instead, Anderson's child found her "back massager" and wanted to play "robot massager game" and she asked them to play it.
Is this a crit? Hitachi is an object that touches the mother's genitals.
You know the other things that those children have access to their mother's genitals.
But all I want to do forever is the vibrator-
Because it is used for the purpose of "naughty.
(Note: These children were born for the purpose of "naughty.
Oh wait, it's okay, it's only naughty when it's not thereprocreative.
) We don't corrupt kids by having them play something that can be used for erotic entertainment.
We project our sense of sexual anxiety and shame on them and make them fall.
Hitachi could be a magical fairy wand, robot arm, or machine gun for a child (now it's an exciting result ).
Recently, I saw a friend's 2-year-
A big wicker basket-
Before she threw all her stuffed animals out of a container to support them, the thing used to keep all her stuffed animals ---
The most exciting thing in the world
Like, half. hour straight. “It’s a pot!
When she pretended to make pancakes in the wicker basket, she screamed.
"Don't touch the pot!
"Of course, there is a difference between Hitachi and wicker baskets ---
As far as I know, her parents did not use the latter for sex.
But when it comes to children's games, is the actual use of an object important, as long as it is hygienic, not a risk of suffocation, as long as the game itself is appropriate childlike, I don't suggest you take your 5-year-old a Playboy;
I mean, Hitachi doesn't have any inherent graphics or inappropriate things.
But I am not an expert on children, so I decided to ask Amy Lang, a parenting and sexual health professional, about her response.
"If the massager is shaped like a penis, then I can see why people find this inherent problem," she said . ".
"Let the kids play with a real penis --
Shape vibrator is not a good idea-
Mainly due to health reasons.
"So what should parents do if their children find their penis?
If the child is less than 6 years old, Lang advises parents to use "Hey!
I think you found it.
I put it away now. -
This is what I use when I am alone.
"What do you want for dessert tonight ? " I was looking for parents stories on social media about children finding their sex toys and got a response like this: "I told her what it was and how to use the basic outline of it. She is 6.
The other person said, "they frowned and guessed what it was but were not frightened.
We asked if we needed a discussion and said.
This sentence echoes Anderson's experience: "He thinks my rabbit is a laser gun.
Similar stories abound on the Internet.
This article written by a woman, her 8-year-
The old daughter found her vibrator and thought it was a "massage stick" and asked to use it.
She made her, why not clean, as she explained, "I don't want to be a big deal about it, and scream, 'Oh my God.
Put that thing down now!
This is my mom's toy, you can't touch it!
As if she had a loaded gun in her hand.
"The fact is that these things have been happening all the time.
This is inevitable: the children are curious, by definition, the copied person is sexual, and there are only so many places in the house where sexual toys can be hidden.
As for Anderson's picture, Lang said, "because Jenna's 'device' can be moved in two directions, I think this picture is good ---
It's fun, but it's fun because we adults know all the uses of her premium massager.
I bet there are a lot of adults who don't know the extra use of this massager.
Still, she disagrees with sharing the picture: "It may not be a good idea to post a photo of a child that can be interpreted as sexy in any way online.
Or at some point in their lives it will humiliate them, and it does not, in my opinion, respect their privacy.
"Somehow, I wonder if we will see that one day the Internet crowd is more disgusted with Instagram, thinking that it violates the child's privacy than the idea of a child playing with sex toys.