Anal sex was once taboo and is now considered a pleasant addition to many sexual relationships.
According to the national attitudes and Lifestyle Survey, the number of male anal sex increased from 2012 in 1990, during which the proportion of women rose from 11 in 1990 to 15.
So now your partner wants to give it a try.
Maybe they tried it before and enjoyed it, maybe it's always been their fantasy (
It could be yours. .
If so, you wouldn't be alone.
A study found that anal sex is a common sexual fantasy for 32 women and 64 men.
On the other hand, some people have a very clear idea that anal sex is not suitable for them, which is also good because no one should do anything forced or uncomfortable.
In our society, there seems to be a worrying trend in which some teenage boys convince girls to have anal sex without taking consent as the main issue.
A study by researchers at London's School of Health and Tropical Medicine found that some young people normalized "mandatory, painful and unsafe anal intercourse.
The researchers said that as part of the study, the 113 teenagers they interviewed rarely talked about anal sex "in terms of mutual exploration of sexual pleasure," and the boys "wanted to replicate them in pornography.
"It seems worrying to hear that there is such a climate of coercion among teenagers today, but what about adults who agree?
Well, if your partner wants to try anal sex and you don't feel well then be sure to say so.
However, if you want to give it a try, then my suggestion is to start gently.
The trick for most people is to fully penetrate during several meetings.
First of all, gently inserting your finger can help you adapt to the feeling of something inside your anus.
It's important to keep this up until you have enough confidence to try something bigger.
Many people use sex toys, as well as fingers or tongue, to gently explore the anus before the penis fully permeates.
Some couples just insist on using sex toys and feel as pleasant as that.
Many kisses and caresses may also be helpful as it will help to ease any anxiety and improve the awakening.
If you haven't tried anal sex before, it's natural to worry about the pain.
The feeling of any pain is usually a warning signal that something is wrong and does not work, but it will not be more confusing or difficult than other sexual acts if handled with care.
That's why it's so important to be truly awakened before trying any penetration, and at the same time feel confident if you ask your partner to stop.
This is because, in the first sign of pain or anxiety, the anal anus is likely to be stuck together.
The anal entrance is very sensitive, so starting with a gentle touch or touch, all the places in the hips can really help set up the scene before trying to penetrate.
Once the penis enters the anus, any insertion should start after the penis is "re-fixed" there for a period of time.
This helps you get used to the feeling of being "full" and also allows you to check out with your partner when you start and stop moving.
Getting into the right position will also help.
Lying on the side or lying on the side may help, as it can continuously stimulate the clit, labia or penis, which can enhance pleasure and help to maintain a wake-up.
The level of penetration is not as deep as other locations, so if you are a novice in the anus, it could be a comforting idea.
For some men, the face-to-face entrance that the armor-piercing bullet holds the partner's leg up on the shoulder can help to continuously stimulate the penis.
Anal sex is safer, usually more enjoyable and fun when you pay attention to following some basic guidelines.
The anus is not lubricated like the vagina, so a lot of lubricant must be used.
Spread it to the penis around the anus and spread it up as much as possible.
This will make it easier to penetrate and stimulate, and also help to avoid any damage to the anus, which can easily hurt and shed tears if the partner is not careful.
The water-based lubricant you can buy from the pharmacy is the best, as oily lubricant can cause the latex condom to break.
I also always recommend the use of one to prevent sexually transmitted infections and to help avoid the presence of harmful bacteria where damage is possible.
When it comes to the anus, hygiene is very important, so clean it thoroughly before any activity, and then clean the sex toys.
You may have seen people in porn put the penis of any sex toy or partner into the mouth or vagina after they are inside the anus, but this can spread harmful bacteria.
Using latex gloves to penetrate with your fingers and contact the anus with a toothpick with your mouth may not sound like the sexiest thing in the world, but they certainly help limit any potential health hazard.
If there are any anal problems such as itching or pain, build-up or constipation, these must be dealt with before you try the anus.
Also, be sure to see a doctor if there is bleeding or secretions in the anus after sex (
Or at any other time).
Many couples find anal sex fun, but like most sex experiments, the key is to find out what works for you.
If it takes a few attempts to get to a place that feels like a natural addition to your sexual experience, don't be disappointed.
Again, don't worry if you 've actually tried anal sex and find it's not for you --
There's always a lot of other things to try.
No matter what happens, feeling safe and comfortable can enhance the experience of both of you.
One of the key parts of this, like all sexual things, is to decide together what to offer and how far you want to go.
Ammanda Major is a senior consultant for related therapists and sexual therapy.
She has a regular painful aunt column on the relevant website "Ask ammanda" that deals with common relationships and issues.
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