Social media has taught us a lot in the past few years.
It has made us more politically active, showcasing our personal brand and honing our communication skills.
With the popularization and wide application of technology, it is easier for our information to spread all over the world.
No wonder so many people are starting podcasts and youtube channels!
Due to the short nature of social media, it is important to communicate your message as clearly and concisely as possible.
Ireland is one of the world's most social media savvy countries.
When it comes to effective communication on the Internet, we are very good at it.
So why are we, both in Ireland and abroad, having difficulty communicating with our partners, but more importantly --
How do we improve our communication skills as part of our personal sexual development, contrary to popular beliefs, you will not understand birds and bees in a separate sex education class in middle school.
Just like other aspects of our lives, sexual growth takes place throughout your life and you will learn new things about your sexuality at different stages of your life.
It is important to remember that what excites you now or who excites you may not be what excites you in 50 years or who excites you, so will your partner, so check regularlyins are key.
Sometimes it's hard to hear that what you all like to do with each other at the beginning of the relationship is no longer done for them, but if we allow ourselves to have frank and compassionate conversations often, that would be much easier.
On the other hand, you may not want to hurt your partner's feelings by suggesting that something you have loved no longer excites you.
Or you may want to explore new ways you desire, such as sex toys or kinks.
When you build a new relationship with those desires that have already been established, this is obviously the simplest because you can say, "This is me, this is what I like (or want to try), "but ask a long term question --
If the two of you can switch a little, the partner of this semester needs some skills.
This may require a bit of practice in both parts of you, and you may make some mistakes in the process, but effective bedroom communication is perfectly learnable.
A good way to start a conversation is to say that you have found a new way to get yourself off the bus and you want to show them how to do that to you.
You can also say that you have read a lot about. . .
If you read a lot about. . .
Maybe this is something you want to try together.
If you express your wishes in a positive way and think it is good for you all, then you are more likely to get a positive response.
Also, if you are a partner on the receiving end of the conversation, it is your responsibility not to let them be ashamed of the wishes they have revealed to you.
This is where empathy plays a huge role.
You don't want them to feel like they can't come to you with sexy advice in the future.
If the characters were reversed, what would you feel if they did the same thing to you? I should also point out that not everything will be clicked.
Not every wish can or should be fulfilled by one person, and it is OK to say no to things that make you uncomfortable.
For example, people who have experienced sexual assault may not want to be involved in the binding scene, or this may be the exact reason why they want to be involved in the binding scene.
You never know. it's important to ask.
Discuss these things openly and unfairly.
Judging with our partner, we are having a consent conversation to help us have the most fulfilling and happy sex with our partner.