On a recent sultry Monday, I sat at my Brooklyn desk thinking about a strange request from Amir Wadan, someone I have never seen before.
He wants to know if I'm going to spin his shaft.
From my computer screen, it's 30-year-
Old lounging back and forth in California's office chair.
He held his cell phone to his ears and held his pink and purple penis with his eyes.
"Can you do it? " he asked ? "
The axis in his hand starts to rotate according to the movement of my mouse on the control panel on my screen. "Yes! " he said.
Encouraged, then I let the pronglike "clit tickler" (shaped like rabbit ears) of dildo beat.
Then I twisted my head again.
I felt a strange pride.
How many women can say they are a dick Watan and I have arranged this weird intimate touch so he can show off the quirky tech product from high joy. com, his 4-month-Old dating site
Unlike other matchmaking sites, High Joy offers forums where singles (or married people, as the case may be) can chat in real time, in addition to seeing their partners, hear about their partners (if they have internet cameras and microphones ).
If they buy a male or female version of Doctor Johnson haijoy --
With sex toys enabled, partners can also rotate axis to each other.
Since Howard Rheinland discussed the field of "remote identification" in his 1991 book, virtual reality, and assumed that by 2020, we all had "portable remote recognizers ", heavy Internet toys have entered the market. The sensor-packed full-
In 2000, the company was unable to assure the Federal Trade Commission that the lawsuit would not lead to a heart attack, so the company's "cyber sex lawsuit" became a weak adventure.
Soon after, a sex toy that can be operated by lighting up and dimming the computer screen got a bland comment.
The biggest success was Sinulator, a wireless adapter that converts almost all sex toys into sex toys that can be used over the Internet.
Sinulator is user friendly--
It runs through the Sinulate website, so there is no need to download--
Also, in addition to the initial cost of the adapter ($119 ).
95 includes two free vibrating bullets that can be inserted into many toys) and are free to use.
Initially, most of the companies that train cameras on the "webcam girl" on the scene used sinulator;
Website visitors who manipulate a girl will be charged extra-
Or sometimes men. -
Dildo on the Internet
However, high joy represents a real shift in remote voice: it has gone beyond the later realms --
A wider audience of night porn surfers.
No porn-
The website advertisement will be seen on its page.
Instead, the website and toys are selling to people who have been neglected so far: people who want to have sex with others, who want to have the possibility to establish or promote relationships.
Obviously, this is a consumer group that is competing for the Internet --
Sex toys are enabled.
According to Sinulator's manufacturer, 75% of devices are now sold to people who want to use them with lovers or Internet friends.
The company says many customers are men who claim to operate their wife's sex toys from their desks at work.
But do single Americans really want to have sex with potential partners in front of the computer? We are very satisfied with the idea of falling in love at a virtual distance ---
Before meeting a person, figure out every detail of him ---
So maybe test
Driving people's bed skills is not so easy to achieve before experiencing them personally.
One day sex with a potential date online won't be considered weird, says Watan, "It's a way to practice your skills, especially for those who try to understand better
"What's more, it's very safe sex.
It's as safe when it comes.
HighJoy, $7.
Joining for a month seems to be betting on a socially acceptable technical relationship --
Building Tools (online dating) with a tool that feels dirtier (online dating) will bring you a layer of OK-
To the latter.
So far, the evidence shows that it takes more time for online attendees to join the remote voice trend.
Although more than 10,000 members currently use the site, HighJoy-
Sex toys enabled have been purchased.
A quick search for the site shows that there are 30 men with toys and about half of women.
But that doesn't mean there's not much testing.
Driver outside. -
You don't need to have toys in order to adjust the toys of others.
After my tutorial from Watan, I decided to boldly join the high joy chat forum. A speedy go-
A variety of people are displayed through the configuration file, from the middle of the swing
Elderly couple (blurred face in photo) normal-
A woman in her 30 s sits at her desk, and the man proudly reveals stiff body parts.
Some people admit that they are virgins.
Others wear undecorated clothes.
There is a "back door" for each profile "--
This is an optional page where people can describe their sexual tastes: Poses, toys, fantasies, etc.
Except for height and age, there is no photo or information in my profile.
All I'm saying is that I'm a happy person. enabled female.
However, I think that said a lot because I was bombarded by email within 24 hours
Mail from someone whose screen name contains words like "stud" and "rock hard.
They are all eager to arrange a "date" to help me test my toy.
Before answering, I have to figure out if having virtual sex with a virtual stranger is something I can do ---
Even though I already told my editor
To be honest, my initial response to remote voice was an unrestrained smirk.
Unscientific surveys of my female friends confirm my suspicions that, like most porn films, anonymous online masturbation may be more of a man's business.
However, I respect the online dating pioneers who use high joy to meet and hook up.
Let's talk about Greg, 31. A.
After a recent break-up, he joined the poet of high joy.
"I'm looking for something different.
I think I'm done with a normal date. site thing.
You chat, drink coffee and you will find that they don't look like their photos. It got old.
"So I went to Google and found high joy," he said . ".
"Video, audio, sex toys ---
This is the normal date.
The website stuff, but it has these extras that really interest me.
"Over the past four months, Greg said he had sex with five women he met on high joy.
None, however, is completely random. -
Before each conquest, there is a day (if not a few weeks) to have a "know you" conversation on a private chat forum or computer videophone.
He even wrote erotic poems for one of them.
"It's like it's in a bar," he said . "
"You provided some information in their profile or you talked about their photos.
Then you say you like sex.
I usually explain how to use this toy because I'm a little old now.
"Once Greg seduced a partner, he created a scene.
"I played music.
I will dim the lights and put the flowers where she can see them.
"I want to create something beautiful for her," he said . ".
"I want her to feel sexy, not dirty.
It's not porn at all for me.
It's quirky and erotic, but it's also clean, nice and safe. " Dani, a 28-year-
The old restaurant manager started using high joy because she said she liked sex but didn't want to sleep nearby.
She also doesn't like that most dating sites are only convenient for meeting people nearby. "Living in L. A.
It's really hard to meet and date people. -
There are too many urban people.
So she found a man named David living in Spain through haijoy.
When he contacted her to praise her photos, they started communicating first.
Her response was due to his profile showing that he had a similar interest in music (Neil Young, Coldplay, Beatles, Rolling Stones ).
After talking through the high joy chat console for three weeks, they started making love with the camera and toys.
"You can't go out and have sex with anyone these days, but with this you can," she said . ".
"Real sex is a intimacy that is different from this intimacy, but it helps the ball roll.
"David has been talking about coming to visit her recently, but Dani said it would be okay if he didn't ---
They have gone beyond the normal online courtship, but there is no real relationship yet.
"I feel like David and I are closer than anyone I talk to because I make him close to me," she said . ".
"I never felt so close to anyone I talked to on other dating sites. . .
If he is here, I will date him, but at the same time, I will not break my heart if I never hear from him again.
"After talking to Dani and Greg, my curiosity was aroused.
Maybe I can play online for a while, and if I can, I can tell my grandchildren that I was one of the first to have sex online.
I suddenly imagined myself as a bold, future sex babe. -
I would be Jane Fonda from the killer sex machine in barbarbarella, or Diane Keaton comes to a climax in sleeper. . .
I told all this to a friend and I 've been joking with him about writing this article. I'd been e-
Send him a link to the strange product I stumbled upon (like this or this, he will immediately --
Leave me a message like "dear, I love it when you click Ctrl Tab!
"But the joke stopped when I said I really wanted to do it.
"You swim too deep, I can't keep up with it anymore," he said . ".
I am really deep.
Am I crazy to think about doing this? I decided to consult Regena thomasauer, a New York sex and relations expert, also known as "Gena mom ".
"Anything that connects people to their sexiness is a step forward," she told me . ".
"People who use these devices may be people who are too silent to have one --on-
One person is in contact, and for them it is better than having no sensory life.
"I won't say I don't have a perceptual life at all, but I 've been single for a few months and somehow, in the process of working on this article, I have started to find the naughty things involved in the virtual tryst tempting.
The danger of not bringing a 3D stranger into my bedroom is an exciting adventure.
When I tried to pick my partner, I found that there were a lot of men who liked "anal beads" and "double diamonds "---
Things I may be able to handle in a relationship, but there is too much information in the early stage.
Then I'm from 24-year-
An old man in Florida whose profile looks innocent. -
He says he's a college graduate who likes Jennifer Garner type and he's fantasizing about having sex on a plane.
He has no pictures, which means I can summon Hugh Jackman mentally.
Neither of us had audio or camera so we started typing back and forth.
Floredia Hugh was very shy and our conversation was embarrassing.
He told me that he worked in the insurance company and I told him that I plugged the toy in.
He politely asked me if he could try to use
Just for the experiment.
"The vibrating ears moved violently, and I told him about his progress on my side.
"It's great," he wrote . "
Within half an hour, we were embarrassed.
Message version of telephone sex.
I can do it without him using "LOL" a lot.
"I can also ask for love with more (not to mention foreplay), but I'm on the deadline, damn.
To my surprise, there was some strange sweetness in the whole thing.
Unlike porn, this makes me the recipient of all attention.
Someone was a little moved--
Even a stranger-
I want to replace Jenna Jameson with a real me.
At the same time, I don't feel physical and emotional exposure, like I have sex with a guy I just met, if he is really in my bed.
Typing and touching your own physical embarrassment is a problem ---
It's kind of like trying to eat an ice cream cone while washing dishes.
However, this is more intimate than phone sex because Hugh controls how I feel.
The problem is he's not a pro.
I had to tell him that I was distracted by the fact that he kept asking me if I liked the axis to the left or right and then moved it myself.
In the end, he began to get the hang of it.
I think we're all a little surprised by the whole thing. -"Wow!
We are really doing this! " he wrote --
But just when we actually started. . .
The vibrator stops working.
Rabbit Ears refuse to move.
Hope it's not battery--
I don't have anyone else! --
I pulled everything out of my computer.
This makes the screen freeze and I have to restart.
Five minutes later, when I logged back in, my net Lothario was gone and my ears echoed in my grandfather banging his pre-
Cable TV many years ago: "One day they will make a better version that actually works," he will say, "it will be great.