Today is Valentine's Day.
In the sand of roses and chocolate wrappers, what better time is there to study the complexity of women's sexual desire?
Female sexual desire has been pathological (
Women's sexual impulses are getting more and more medical attention)shamed (
She's sleeping nearby. she's a slut)feared (
The myth of vaginal teeth can be traced back to Greek legend)
And worship in your own way (
Being called the goddess of sex is never a bad thing. )In an eyebrow-
Vancouver filmmaker Maureen Palmer aired a new documentary on CBC's Doc Zone on Thursday night and weekend, the truth about women's desires, discussing how open a new sexual revolution tells us today about how women are to their sexual behavior, and "from 18 to 80", women reject old ideas about sexual punishment, and "undisguised" pursuit
As the narrator of the film
Mary MacDonald (
Who is also the host of the Doc area)
"Love suddenly becomes very, very hot in a cold climate.
Well, yes, no.
We will talk about it in a moment.
Palmer told me in an interview how moved and surprised the woman who bravely agreed to talk about their desires in front of the camera made her feel.
"I want to be taken away, I want to be nailed to death, I want it now, I want it very quickly, I want it very hard!
A smiling lady said she wrote a blog titled divorce is not dead.
The most poignant scene is a middle.
An elderly divorced woman, when the teacher raised the penis model and explained the "Crown Ridge", sat intently in the oral sex workshop.
"My first reaction to this documentary is to wait, which means that even women in their 60 s have to hide their sexual orientation, have we not yet experienced the era of free love in which feminism and birth control pills combine, let us love our bodies and let us be free?
Recently, my friends and I were sitting in a coffee shop and reliving those glorious days when an elegant white-haired woman among us declared, "I am definitely a star chaser, A young lady at the table next door stared in horror from her laptop as if to say, "you must be joking. ".
"I think we're in the New Yorker comics.
But many of Palmer's points are good.
She filmed the owner of the Toronto sex toy store, "Good for her," declaring the tacky but erotic novel and the current film, "Fifty Shades of Gray", "absolutely changed the rules of the game ", because it allows women to explore dangerous sex. (
You 'd better believe there will be 50 colors in the Jian Ghomeshi sexual assault trial).
Palmer and his colleagues.
Writer Helen Slinger records how online culture drives women to pursue their sexual orientation firmly.
Now that we have "Tinderellas", young women using the mobile dating app Tinder, if the photos are attractive to them, slide to the right, schedule an appointment, and then, as if "I was fired. "
"We met an honorary college student and a sex club worker who called himself a" sex worker"
I will try it any time "-
We saw a lot of bodice and quirky boots.
We 've also seen a group of men say yes, we're excited about this kind of open sex, although Palmer said that outside the camera, one person admitted he was hurt by most people.
The woman he met did not want feelings, but the joy of a night or two.
There's a lot of irony here.
Palmer acknowledged that in the Ghomeshi case, there were endless examples of the online cultural debate on sexual slander and rape, and last year was a "difficult" case for women.
In fact, before deciding that what a woman has achieved in expressing and fulfilling her wishes is worth celebrating, she originally intended to be her PhD in rape culture.
The key issue here is that "women have the right to say" yes "and to say" no ".
She is concerned about trying to "protect" women from the impact of sexual culture, from feminist pornography to double pornography
They want to participate in the "we" vibrator.
We live in a world of personality paradox in which teenagers have online tools but do not have mature sext, according to the survey, the prevalence of pornography undermines the ability of men between the ages of 18 and 25 to have "real" sex, and one of them is that most adults actually have sex every 12 days.
In fact, people who are married or have a partnership have the most sex
And the greatest freedom to explore their desires.
Esther Perel, Belgium
Born therapist and writer, his wonderful Ted talk the secret of desire
Relationship "(
"Why can't good intimacy guarantee good sex? ”)
It has been seen by 5 million viewers, appearing in Palmer's doctor, but her charming speech about keeping desire alive should be seen in full.
It reinforces the truth of "truth": underwear and sex toys will not be given to women --or men —
It's great to have sex if our heads are not in the right space.
We need to deepen the mystery and distance between us and our partners to unleash our erotic wisdom.
In fact, there may be an application (Unleash! )
Just for this.
Judith Timson writes weekly articles on cultural, social and political issues.
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Timson @ sympatico.