Summer is a great time to spend with adult children and grandchildren.
But if being with your adult child and their family is a minefield that could be hit --
Ups and misconceptions?
Jenny Hale, senior family coach at the parenting venue, said it's important to remember that relationships are more important than right, so everyone deserves to find a good balance between themselves and their families.
"If you live in the same home, it's good to know what the routine is and get used to it," Hale said . ".
"Ask what you can do to help, sometimes it looks like reading stories, or taking kids to the park, or maybe it looks like buying takeout, or helping out in a special dance class.
Hale knows that even adult children are eager to be accepted by their parents. He also suggests starting a conversation by asking about their living conditions, giving each other space and letting each other do things in their own way, no comparison.
"Very limited advice should be provided-don't turn it into a lecture if you can better wait for an invitation," Hale suggested . ".
"Be positive about what you can do and how your child is raising it.
Curiosity is a good idea-things are different for every generation, so let your kids teach you something.
"If you are going to visit adult children living abroad or go on vacation together, you will spend more time in each other's pockets.
The natural instinct may be to take over the leader in the family group, but it is important to support what your adult child does as a parent.
"Absolutely don't try to get grandkids to stand with any parents or grandparents," Hale said . ".
"If the kids realize that big people are working together, they have a wonderful sense of security.
"When their parents don't like salty or sugary snacks, they are not the kind of grandparents who sneak sugar and salt into their grandchildren's diet. Instead, please check the" family rules "of the family ", this way you can support adult children in the way they want their parents.
Spend time doing things together instead of sitting at homeor hotel room —
In addition to parenting advice, I will also give you some topics.
For example, go outdoors, visit the zoo, or go hiking
Anything that makes you all active can stream positive endorph out.
Finding common interests, such as enjoying live music or taking part in snow sports, will make you more intimate while on vacation.
Remember to be alone with everyone in the group.
Will you take your son? in-
Go out for coffee one morning or spend some time with your daughter during the day --spa —
Family holidays are about making connections, not just adjustments.
Trying to book a full
Inclusive holiday packages will also save some economic pressure and uncertainty for who pays for meals and activities.
If you do feel nervous or arguing, suggest you go out and do something you like to do yourself and start over
Share stories in groups for dinner.
For example, you may like museums when your child likes mountainsbiking.
If you all have a nice day and do what you like, you are more likely to have a positive conversation when you get back together.
Another good idea is to bring a little nostalgia on the trip, as long as it's not sacrificing the rest of the family.
An example is
Visit a place where you and your children explore when they are young and recall this experience.
Your partner and grandchildren may enjoy exploring with you or giving them the option to do something else --
It may be a good thing for them to find more information about a person's childhood, or it may make them feel left out.
Grandparents may have more time to plan how to get through the holidays smoothly, but this is not entirely a problem with their efforts to adapt to their adult children.
Adult children can also do something to support grandparents as part of their family.
"Grandparents are encouraged to develop their expertise and make it their business," Hale said . ".
"It could be the teaching of weaving, cooking, cycling, remote control cars, special holiday vacations.
Also, don't buy too much for your child
Leave some space for grandparents!
"She also recommends maintaining a respectful attitude towards your parents, as the child will be disgusted with anything unpleasant or disapproving.
It's not always easy to forget the pain of the past in childhood, but try to stay away from listening to grandchildren to talk about relationship issues.
"Find a way to keep in touch-
Whether it's over the phone, skype, text or old
Write a letter.
"It means a lot to grandparents," said Jenny . ".
"Thank you for your help.
It's easy to take care of kids for granted, but if traveling out is expensive, your thanks and even financial help can be of great help.
"The happiest culture seems to be the one where big families weave their lives together, so dealing with these relationships is good for all the people involved, and Hale says it's the most important thing in life.
"This connection between children, parents and grandparents can be an amazing gift," said Jenny . ".
"When you take this opportunity together, respect, kindness and thoughtfulness will be an amazing attitude.