Best advisor to the New York Times, Ian Kerner
Sales author, Chart Blog about sex last Thursday.
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Ladies, how many of you have forged? If so, why?
Are you pretending because your orgasm won't happen?
Or did you do it because his climax happened so fast?
In this case, maybe you pretend that your climax is to not hurt his feelings, or maybe to avoid talking about it.
But did you fake it because you thought it might prevent him from cheating?
A new study published in the sex act archives found that 54% of women admitted to pretending to be orgasms and that women who thought their partner might cheat were more likely to be fake women.
While it is a novel idea to pretend to orgasm to keep a partner faithful, one has to doubt its potential effectiveness.
I personally don't know what research suggests that men are more likely to have a relationship with a partner with an orgasm, or, if their partner doesn't have an orgasm, men are more likely to cheat.
Of course, there is very little research on female orgasm.
Maybe women who pretend to cheat because their partner may cheat are not trying to keep their partner, but pretend to be, because the fear of cheating on their partner makes it difficult to reach a climax in the first place.
"Maybe when women think that a partner might cheat, they tend to pretend more about orgasm, not because it will convince the partner to stay, it's because the pressure of not trusting a partner can create a wake-up for them, "says Dr. sex educator," making orgasm more difficult. "Emily Nagoski.
"If your partner expects to reach a climax, but it's not easy to do so, pretending is a way to meet that expectation, thereby reinforcing the relationship narrative of" everything is good.
Of course, everything is not good if a woman is pretending, especially when she is worried that her partner will cheat.
"Pretending it is by no means an effective strategy," said Dr . "
Logan Levkov, author of How to make your wife have sex with you.
"Just because someone pretends they have an orgasm, a relationship doesn't live long.
In fact, lack of physical satisfaction (
Lack of honest communication, obviously)
It will never lead to the success of the relationship.
"In my experience as a sexual advisor, women who have consistently forged are also more likely to end up losing themselves and seeking sexual satisfaction.
But as we know from the famous "I will have what she has" scene, when Harry meets Sally, "it's easy for men to be fooled.
According to the recently released national survey of sexual health and sexuality, 85% of men said their partner had experienced a climax in recent sex, while only 64% of women reported that they really had a climax.
Implication: many women are pretending
And get away with it.
But if a woman pretends that her partner thinks she really enjoys the sex, is her discontent really heard?
It's not easy to talk about sex, especially if you naively think that pretending to be sex is any effective way to keep your partner from straying. But as Dr.
Madeleine Castellanos noted that "most of the women in the study were college students with an average age of 21.
8 years old, with an average of 2 years and 9 months.
This group may have a higher level of anxiety in terms of their relationship.
"Maybe that's why people say that women will experience sexual peaks in their future lives --
Not for physiological reasons, but because an older woman is less likely to fake it, and more likely to pursue happiness in a level playing field with her male partner.
When it comes to pretending, remember that secrets may come out.
"If a man finds out that his woman has been pretending to be excited and orgasm, pretend to explode on your face," added Castellanos . ".
"Talk to your partner about what you like and what really pleases you is that he is more likely to build a real erotic connection that he will value.
"I have to say that I have a fetish that I like to hear, feel and see the climax of a woman, so I kind of understand the main points of this article.
If I think I am not satisfied with my partner, I am more likely to lose my way because of my own self.
It's important for me to please people with me, and if for some reason I can't, I might want to find someone else I can find.
Well, from my own frustration before the wand experience, I can't recommend this enough-from my own frustration before the wand experience, name your Linkhmm, I can't recommend enough-comments on HMWI hope my wife cares enough not to fake it.
There is no reason for a woman to do this.
Let her use her wand (
The most acclaimed thing in the it category of related products on Amazon)
She can enjoy it in front of you (
After you give her some privacy to try it and find the right way to work with her).
She will even enjoy sexual intercourse after this. .
Even if she does not usually do so.
From personal experience
It's sad that you 'd rather she lied to you than take the initiative to solve the problem. Yep!
If you want to please a woman, she will be happy to please you, then you must love her in your words and then pursue her body. Trust me.
My man has never failed.
I have fake ads and crap. . . .
What if you bought the whole virgin before you got married?
Then you are with your man who can only wear diapers and baby bottles with a goat in the room.
Then you are really a little "f.
At this point, pretending it would be the least problem.
It makes more sense for me to have a wife. I am a woman.
I think 20 years is a good start for marriage.
Move on as a friend.
Thinking of being with someone for more than 50 years and watching them rot in front of you, I don't like to see. .
Just because people are genetically "born" to cheat doesn't mean they will choose to cheat.
Everything has a choice.
Is it really important if a man is pretending? ? ? ? ?
I think the premise of this article is flawed. . . .
Suppose people "pretend" to keep a relationship-but for me, pretending is a symptom of potential dishonesty, which may be more present in unstable relationships, people are worried about the reason why this article is not good. .
Oh my God, I really like to read some people's comments.
Read their crap and I can't kill myself.
Well, I can't seem to get it done most of the time.
If it matters, I haven't had sex for years.
Let's talk about you crazy madman.
It was really interesting for me to read this article. Thanks for it.
I like this topic and everything related to it.
The study seems to show that the rate of sexual intercourse between men and women is roughly equal.
At least they have a connection, which is a good thing.
While it doesn't make our relationship perfect, it keeps our relationship together.
Or this woman can delay, don't solve her problem and let the relationship deteriorate until the man is forced to outsource.
There are a lot of problems with women now, they just say well, pretend that everything is OK and never solve any problems.
Step 1-forge.
Hopefully you will get some marriage counseling after that and things may improve.
All you need is a magic wand (check amazon).
No marriage counseling or anything?
Don't fake reviews that check the original because I think he will leave and I do this because I know the whole purpose of his sex with me is to please me.
I couldn't reach a climax through sexual intercourse, so made him feel finished (
Because I love him), I fake it.
I never thought he would leave if I didn't.
I'm not fake, I don't even see a need!
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