In the 1990 s, sex and cities caused cultural shock waves (or vibrations)
By honestly depicting a woman masturbating and using sex toys.
It is considered a huge leap forward in breaking self-taboos.
Love and sexual orientation of womenFast-
In the past 20 years, trend prediction expert JWT Intelligence rated 2017 as "vaginal year"
Pelvic floor muscle exercises, vulvar skin care and g-
Spot motivators are popular.
Thanks to the fourth wave of feminism, women are encouraged to "talk about their vagina and vulva as never before, whether it is related to menstruation, health, sex, masturbation or happiness, lucie Greene, global director of Zhiwei Thomson Innovation Group, wrote in 2016.
On the other hand, straight men are ashamed of masturbation and the use of sex toys --
At least according to writer Sullivan.
He is the author of "better than hands: How Masturbation is the key to improving sexual life and a healthy life.
He also runs Manshop, a male toy website. com.
It is important for him that both men and women try these gadgets because he thinks they help build a person's understanding of their body and in turn help them become better lovers.
To learn more, The Independent has asked questions about sex toys, gender and the politics of the future.
Hi Magnus, tell us something about you 49 and 4
A generation of San Francisco natives.
I'm a professional masturbation.
I 've recorded a career in a recent book that is better than a hand: masturbation is the key to how to improve your sex life and a healthy life.
What do men need to know about trying sex toys?
Sex toys are the best way to be a better lover.
With toys, you can learn how to explore your whole body with greater patience and skills and learn how to prevent the penis from escalating immediately
Focus on masturbation
It helps to appreciate your partner's body and learn how to relax your loved one while really getting her excited.
Sex toys can help you break cultural barriers in a safe, private environment and help us not only understand our body, but also our self.
Especially for straight men, there is too much behavior that harms our concept of men and what it means to be a man ".
These cultural walls limit not only our behavior, but also our psychology and self-consciousness.
What kind of people we end up being told or expected to be, not what kind of people we want to be, is the reason for deep insecurities and lack of clarity.
More importantly, however, this weakens compassion;
Because experience is the best way to understand, understanding is the source of empathy.
I believe that, as the range of behaviors acceptable to straight men is getting narrower and narrower, the lack of compassion is at the root of many acts of violence in this world.
It's so easy to demonize "others" when you don't understand them and are afraid of them.
Toys can also help men learn to delay orgasm, keep working hard after orgasm and have multiple orgasms.
Once you have overcome this psychological disorder, you are no longer worried about ejaculation being too fast, losing an erection or not having an erection.
What will sex toys look like in the future?
The current trend is remote interaction, such as controlling devices via the Internet or close Bluetooth, more realistic meat
Like textures, interactive and AI elements including virtual reality and dialogue, quasi-
Interactive dolls and robots.
Female toys are already far ahead of male toys, and there is a bit more to catch up.
For example, although men seem to want more life
Like the interaction of their sex toys
Full size robot sex doll
I never heard a woman say she wants her vibrator to talk to her.
What do you think about sex toys replacing sex with real people?
I'm sure this is already the case for some people, and as straight people strive to fit into a world where simple straight and white people don't automatically give you power, this could increase --
Despite the current situation.
We can see more games being played in Italy and Japan.
A society that is getting less sexy
Or we can see the widespread acceptance of toys, sex, and the improvement in the effectiveness of prevention and adversarial transmission of diseases, leading to another one-time awakening.
Like everything else now, things are at a turning point --
I am doing everything I can to make sure that more people have more sex with themselves and others.
Do you think men who are worried about trying anal sex or using sex toys are struggling with internalized homophobia and looking "gay? Of course.
This is a huge fear for many straight people.
What does it mean to enjoy it?
What does it mean to explore it?
What would I do if I really liked it?
As Donald Trump's treatment suggests, sexual assault on women by heterosexual men is more acceptable than they explore all aspects of happiness in a consensus manner.
Straight men's behavior box is so narrow and scary that it has a negative impact not only on men, but also on people around them and the world.
What you write is that men feel ashamed when masturbating.
Do you think it would be useful to elaborate this argument in a way that women are seen as "liberating" and men are not seen as liberating, or is the issue more complex?
As with all the actions, it becomes more and more complex as you become more refined.
Anatomy of my personal relationship with masturbation and how family, culture, psychology and experience collide to create my unique perspective and experience will be a daunting task --
It's also daunting to do the same for you.
But part of my confusion is my role as a straight cis male living in the United States in 2017, and in terms of dialogue and culture about masturbation, obviously quite different from women
My main point is that women's doors are much wider and more attractive than men's.
It doesn't mean that all women have to go through that door, or it's easy for them to do it, but this entrance is mapped, known, people come back from the other side to talk about it and share their experiences.
Women have 50 years of impassioned critical thinking to support and contextualize this sexual pilgrimage in a positive way.
While gay men may have had the most complex and progressive conversations about sex and identity, heterosexual men have not accepted this progress and have not benefited from it.
In general, masturbation has successfully reshaped the lives of women as part of the empowerment of women.
This is not the case with straight men.
Generally speaking, men are ashamed of their habits, worried about what others will think of them, and worried about certain behaviors. if they know, they will have huge social consequences.
In general, women have their own bodies more than men have their own.
In general, women will be more comfortable having toys, talking about toys and using masturbation as part of a healthy life.
This is very ironic when our culture has so much to objectify and shape women, but in this area straight men are in dark times and women have at least their enlightenment.
Do you think men and women are suppressed differently?
For example, masturbation is considered normal for teenage boys, while masturbation for girls is shameful.
Men will also talk more openly about watching porn.
I think we're all suppressed in different ways.
But in our culture, there must be a big difference in the sexual experience of heterosexual men and women.
When I write in the book, I don't think most men know how difficult it is for women to maintain and develop healthy self-awareness in a world that tells them every day that they are flawed.
Women are everywhere in everyday interactions, and they are sexually and trivial in ways that men rarely experience, let alone understand.
Even now, we have it.
Shame at best, rape and extreme violence at worst.
Straight men cannot begin to understand the feeling of living in this world and maintain a positive and healthy attitude towards themselves, sex, relationships and humanity.
One of the biggest misconceptions, however, is that in this world, men's sexuality is somehow accurately represented and men's needs are adequately met.
Just because a version of male sex seems to be forever
It does not mean that anyone's needs are met.
So most straight men wear sexy and emotional straight jackets tailored to the media --
Suitable for their special insecurities of masculinity.
Is there any problem?
Do you think the stigma surrounding male masturbation comes down to pornography and the fear that a woman will try to mimic sexual assault by her partner?
While some women are concerned that aggressive pornography can lead to unwanted aggressive sex, you may be right, I have never heard of this from women.
More relevant questions are related to the sense of betrayal, because desire is directed at people who are not them, and do not look like their people, and what they do in bed is not the case.
This can also be linked to the feeling that any redirect of desire damages the loyalty of a close relationship: it is closely related to our one-wife culture.
Again, you must not really want me if you want another one.
Many of the women I have spoken to have admitted that desire is their main trigger for erotic.
Just like the one-wife system, this works as long as you are the only object of desire.
Finally, I think a lot of women want to get involved.
For many, this is both a source of intimacy and a sign of intimacy, so when they are excluded from such an intimate and important part of their partner's life, it feels like a betrayal of intimacy.
What is the biggest misconception about male masturbation?
Masturbation reflects your overall identity in any way.
We have
The fun of sexual identity.
We are animals with strong sex.
We are actually born for happiness. we should enjoy it. it is free.
Masturbation should be seen as an opportunity for creative sexual brainstorming, as a means of personal growth, health, and sexual ability, rather than a quick, retired act of quiet despair.
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