Best advisor to the New York Times, Ian Kerner
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All you have to do is watch almost every description of a female orgasm on the screen and learn about the "should" reaction of a woman when making sex.
From "Harry meets Sally" to "Sex and the City" to your most basic porn, women in the throes of passion are not just shouting out their rapture on the roof --
They groaned happily. Loudly.
But is this just a movie license, or is there really any noisy sex?
Experts want to know the same thing.
Last year, Gail Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin henderry of the University of Leeds published their research on the subject --
Technically known as "mating voice"
In the sex file.
In this study, they asked 71 sexually active heterosexual women between the ages of 18 and 48 to learn more about the details of the vocal voice during sex.
The researchers found that many women do make noise, but not necessarily at the height of the day.
On the contrary, 66% said they moaned to speed up the climax of their partner, and 87% said they made a voice when they had sex to enhance his selfesteem.
Is Female orgasm really just a "reward?
"While female orgasms are most common in foreplay, mating sounds are reported to be most common before and at the same time as men ejaculate," the researchers wrote . ".
It is reported that women also make noise to relieve boredom, fatigue and pain/discomfort in sexual life.
So, do women in sex speak only for the benefit of men? (
After all, Meg Ryan'sthe-
The top groans are meant to prove to Harry that men are easily deceived by fake orgasms. )
"There is not much research on this," said Kristen Mark, a sex researcher at Indiana University, "but we were bombarded with images from mainstream media that tell us that groaning is related to orgasm and sexual pleasure.
Complaints are therefore a rather sensible strategy of pretending, as men already tend to associate groaning with orgasm.
"Of course, there is nothing smart to pretend.
Sex educator and writer Patty Brison said: "If you pretend to be a climax, you are sending a signal to your partner that everything he does is right, and in fact he doesn't.
"Use moaning as a signal that you're excited and things really feel good, not the way they don't have them hidden.
Whether it's fake or not, women are not the only Linglong animals that sound during sex.
Studies in the animal kingdom have shown that, for example, female bab monkeys have various mating cries, which seems to be related to their fertility: The vocations become more complex when females approach ovulation, when the females mate with the higher, the sound will also be different.
Ranked male eight brother.
Female macaques also shout out to help stimulate their partner to orgasm.
Putting aside the acting and primatologists, the sound of making love is actually a great tool to help women get what they want in bed.
As I talked about sex in my column a few weeks ago, it's not always easy to turn sexual thinking into action, so a little strategic complaint can definitely help you understand that.
"Women are learning to be responsible for their sexual needs and the needs in the bedroom," explains Brisben . ".
"We need to go further and allow ourselves to be teachers.
It's good to use voice to teach your partner what it feels like.
It can help you say, "stop, go, yes, be happier "--
It doesn't sound like traffic police.
"When it comes to noise," partner interests are not the only puzzles, "says Kristin mark. ".
"Maybe making noise will excite some women and help them to experience happiness.
Brisben agreed: "I think there are a lot of women who need to speak out to help themselves reach their climax --
It can help them and their climax.
There are stages, of course.
When a woman falls into it, she may become very outspoken and then enter a quiet period in the coming.
So do what you think is right.
Any other benefit is just a generous bonus.
When it comes to "mating sounds", maybe men should learn from the ladies.
"Women understand that moaning is a change --
Logan lefkov said: "For men, many women end up liking it because they try to go beyond what is natural, "a sex educator and author of the guide how to make your wife have sex with you.
But the sexual selfRespect is two-
In road Street and sex, a man's goal should be more than just a purring at the end.
It's not about pretending or doing something you don't want to do, it's more about being sexual and syncing with each other.
So let's all make some noise.
There is a very special way of speaking when women reach orgasm.
This is a spontaneous outpouring that is rarely disguised as a fake climax.
It comes from the heart with a deep exclamation mark.
It's true.
Eddie Murphy, like 20 years ago, did a complete set of routines for this exact sound, which is absolutely true.
Poor people think it's BS. . .
Eddie Murphy probably never gave a woman a orgasm, so what does he know?
It's true, I have to wait until I have a great husband who knows what he's doing, so yeah, it's spontaneous until I'm in my 50 s, uncontrollable deep shouting that lasts until the climax. . . .
I never know, it sounds like a lot of women don't know, and researchers don't!
I think there is some truth in this.
I used to have a girlfriend who was really bad at pretending to be orgasm, which was good in a way because it helped me know when she had a real orgasm.
When they come up with something "yadda", if a woman feels she's being judged, then it really doesn't encourage a woman to be a stand-up and she won't have a real orgasm.
If you comment on the weight of your partner and compare her appearance to that of other women, she will pretend to come out and you will never know the difference.
How many people are very interesting (a)
Of course, they give women a real orgasm, so they are experts and (b)
I think all the women are the same.
All women make a voice?
Good luck in real life.
How do you know?
Are you speaking based on the experience of being a man or a woman?
Or one of those people who don't know what they are.
Consider your reply to the nexr article.
This is where rubber meets the road!
Let us hear it for the road; Long live DHip hip! How the heck-
Did staff at the University of Leeds and Central Lancashire persuade their superiors to spend time and money doing such research?
My own "research" came up with some different data, but again, I don't think I'm sleeping with women who discuss their sexual moaning (
Sorry, "mating voice ")
University researchers
Funny Guy "mating voice "! ! !
I can't believe this is news. Laaaame.
Our economy is in crisis. many people are drunk, smoking and playing games while Rome is burning. Idiots. Cool story bro!
Sorry man, you don't have personal experience with the phenomenon of female mating vocations, but those of us who have this experience have no reason to take it out.
Actually, who cares is right?
As for the sound of mating women. . .
I tend to find wildlife phones that they seem to think need to be distracted.
Nothing kills my sexual impulses faster than those who sound like they're being penetrated by something wrapped in barbed wire. IMHO. . .
It depends on that woman.
I found Asian women
People who often don't speak English)
Their voice is more natural.
Western women seem to be more focused on cheering their partners.
Of course, over the past 40 years, my research has only been a personal experience on about 2,000 topics.
This is not a news report. . .
Entertainment? Sea ya. . .
Captain DaveDave, the "Asian vocal" you are very familiar with is easily translated into "give me money now! ". . .
Or "police, help!
"BS: midell finger holds up for you
You're disgusting.
I am an Asian woman and I am very angry with your comments (
Oh sorry, I mean, what do I know, maybe I can't speak English and didn't do it right, my bad/ironic).
Talk about stereotypes.
I hope you live in Asia, which can explain your comments.
Call me idealistic anyway, but basically you sleep with a woman you can't even communicate. So. Yeah. Whatever.
Someone like you gave it to my husband (Who is the Caucasian? a bad name.
Try to find real Asian women who can talk to you instead of looking down when you talk to her and moaning when you have sex with her.
Maybe you can write it again.
Even so, women are women.
When men begin to classify women of different races and say that race X is the best, it sounds like some strange fetish. Grow up.
The cat behind my house also groans when making love.
Does this mean she is trying to boost her partner's self-esteem?
No, the penis of the male cat is stabbed. she is not happy.
For all of you who are worried that your taxes are being wasted on this study, the University of Leeds is in the UK (
Or the UK, because the news is not good).
Perhaps, gentlemen, there are cultural differences in the response to "urge him to hurry up.
I have never forged O for myself. Never had to.
I am very lucky in this regard.
It's just as good for me to hear my partner get me into this noise.
A low voice said mmmmmmmmmm was very encouraging and the "sound" of both sides was more interesting.
What a bunch of tripe!
Why can't we just enjoy it?
It's always some "news" story about what women do for men, written by men for other men.
Let me tell you that they are spectacular when they are real.
When they are fake, they are with a man like you, you idiot in the face.
Moaning, moaning-screaming is the true seal of recognition sorry, this is as a general comment, not a reply. Oops!
One of the two researchers who conducted the study was male and the other was female.
Nothing in this article suggests that the study suggests or suggests that "everything a woman does is for a male ".
"Understand how the things behind science reduce the fun of it-it should increase it if there is one.
I make this sound when my husband rub my feet.
My wife does not complain. . .
She made a shopping list. i like it.
When my girlfriend sees a conservative woman, he groans (tightbutt 's )
-No hose-find your own/free/loose hose. openbutt's . -
Another joke/A stupid comedian.
What is this, I don't even know what I really don't feel when a woman is wet, before I switch.
I will put 4 games in about 10 to 25 minutes depending on the time I first started to infiltrate.
It was great, but I took it after 5 minutes.
I don't really feel anything unless I put her knee on my shoulder, and then I just feel like I hit the wall or I turn the switch on.
She, like my wife, made me feel like she wanted it all the time, but I couldn't do it all the time.
The movie makes me feel like I'm not like a man. I have to do it every day, but I can't be tired and can't do it without the mood.
Married almost every day for 8 years at first, but now it seems to be two or three days later.
It's not her fault. it's mine.
For the article that she made a sound, the bathroom brake, of course, after intimacy, thank you (
Never understood)
, Feel like she wants more/wake me up at three o'clock A. M. and let me walk around 2nd times.
I know this form is about women, but come on.
I am going to sleep. you are blessed.
Really lucky! ! !
No, women complain because they don't know what to do.
I think you 've never been with a real woman because you show what you think they should be. Iron my shirt!
No, seriously, there are a lot of people who shouldn't "make some noise ".
"So, please help those who are finally on the Darwin Awards list, or those who have the Darwin Awards list babies, and don't encourage them.
It's not good for us either.
I think they are about half of our politicians, so please, let's try to cut our spending. Many thanks.
"Why do women groan while having sex ".
Should they groan? *sob*:,(
You will see a purple red hair on your mission desk and he knows it all very well. . . .
I like to see that moaning
Lisa smileMust is talking about American women. . . . . fakers.
All discussions about some small pipes or ballgag will solve the problem well_-^who cares. .
It's my business anyway. . . . .
Although this false conversation may be an insult to my intelligence. . . . . .
Sometimes they come up with the most unusual things to say. . . .
"Did you just say you put my finger in your mud machine?
It's strange that you have never spoken like this before. . . oh well.
When they say "No! Stop! "so confusing. . .
Which one is honey. . .
How to tell a woman is installed?
The lower body is flush.
The real deal will not make the scammer blush.
This is involuntary, so a liar can't do anything to achieve it (
Thanks MANswers).
Of course, men should be educated to understand what makes their women a day, not worry about fake and true.
My ex-wife had a climax and how did I know that she put down her nail file and put her mother on hold.
This is ridiculous-no other lesbian commented on this thread? ? ?
If you think women are just complaining for the benefit of men, why don't you look at what happens when you take men out of the equation?
Encouragement, manipulation, coaxing, or reinforcement can be done with moaning. . . sure.
But when two people get to know each other's body intimately and devote themselves to giving and receiving pleasure, the real moaning happens.
Source: My girlfriend is 8: 45 today. you.
You won!
To be honest, I was surprised that you were the first to say that.
I never had sex before [
Pervirgin proud ~]
But I can tell you when my cousin [female]
Accidentally stimulated the back of my neck and heard my hair line.
People, we do this to show happiness, not just to speed you up.
Scream and groan before the cow comes home. . . .
Everything is good!
I hope the neighbors are not at home. . . . yikes!
When she screamed "Oh my God! "?
Women groan while making love.
Men groan when they don't have sex.
It's fun when you think about it.
XGay male "ass" is also moaning-where do you think the word "pillow" is --
Biter "comes from. I don't buy it.
Funny article until they throw the damn monkey.
Human beings do nothing compared to the stupid Hairy Ape. Get over it. . . .
We are different.
Have you been to the south?
I think what you're talking about is South Brooklyn W. Tony, we don't just live in the South. .
Compare us with apes. . shall I say . . out-of-fashion?
My girlfriend moaning/moaning at orgasm, which has nothing to do with "encouraging" me at all.
Whether I am masturbating her or riding a pole, she will groan.
She stayed in her own world for a while.
She's not pretending.
Most of this article is BS.
"She's not pretending.
"Of course she is not.
You keep telling yourself, Jim.
Women can't always groan with me because I bring happiness to them! ?
Why don't you? ?
Great research project.
Not sure if the findings are complete or clear at this point, but what an interesting research topic it is.
After all, good sex is one of the greatest pleasures of life, and I think there is a good reason to learn more in a scientific way than just by vulgar anecdotes.
If they had both
"Liar" told me they were pretending.
Scammer in high tide, you can't pretend! Case Closed!
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Birth control pills are a nightmare of sexual fun.
Without birth control pills, women have 4 to 5 days of hormonal changes every month, and they crave all male things, the more manly they are, the stronger the better.
This shift can be eliminated by birth control pills.
So now women are attracted to something "soft (
Baby, man, etc. . )all month long.
That's it, and I think it's great for women to take birth control pills.
But, just like everything else is good, there is a price to pay.
I will take over condoms or babies any day.
When I enjoyed myself, my man said I was "coo" like a pigeon ".
I was embarrassed when he pointed this out the first time he had sex because I really didn't realize I was doing it. . .
Because I'm too busy! !
If men aren't so sensitive to their sexual potential then we don't have to do that.
I find that the self-esteem of most people comes from what they think about sex without prow.
If you don't, they will bother you all night. . . .
Do you have an orgasm? . . . . Am I big enough? ? ? ?
We enjoy sex, but we don't like it as much as you do.
It's more of an intimate experience for us.
Also, please note in the article.
The woman's climax in the foreplay is not sex. Heads up guys. . . . .
Foreplay is as important as the action itself.
So, take a moment and we may groan for the real climax.
I used to be with a man because I was so hot that I had to beg him to really infiltrate me. When he did. . . . . . .
This is the best sex. . . . . . EVER! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
For him and me.
We were very happy when we got married.
Three people sitting in a bar: an Englishman, a Frenchman, and an Israeli.
The British boasted-my wife screamed for 10 minutes after that.
The Frenchman turned his eyes. -This is not me. . .
She called for an hour later.
The two men turned to Israel. .
My wife is still yelling.
It's been six months.
They kept asking for some of Israel's secrets. . .
Then I wiped it with the curtains.
Get a Hitachi wand for your lady and you will know if she likes to groan.
I don't understand why a man's penis can't simply vibrate. True that.
I know women prefer shower massagers to men. .
I can't move my tongue so quickly.
I found it stupid to read this article.
I hope I can cancel clicking on the link. Moaning?
Usually before or after.
She usually Harden, bite or dig her nails.
I don't know why most people are commenting on the issue, but I would say it's hard to be quiet when my husband and I are about to leave and it would be more enjoyable for me to relax.
Foreplay is not common to me, definitely not just cheering for him (
Even though he deserves cheering?
This is total bs!
It made me so angry that I really yelled at the husband who sent it to me.
Not only do I scream and groan, but I sometimes make a loud voice.
He knows that II can't be fake because of my inner contraction!
I think a woman moaning in happiness can be a great ringtone, whether it's fake or true, who cares?
There is no doubt what happened when Sandy started panting. Awesome!
You don't know anything. My girl crows. .
She did not groan.
My first wife never made a sound, even if she was shaking at the height.
Then I went on a date with a profane screamer who also placed the order and it was hard to start! She was an explosion.
Also dating another high-pitched screamer, who had a continuous orgasm while boinking, a bass screamer trembled during 12 to 15 orgasms during sex.
I was very loud myself.
The key is that everyone is different.
I really don't care why. . . . . . . . . .
I just want to hear a woman moaning now. . . . It-oh-so-
It reminds me of a happy place.
Why do women pretend to orgasm because they think we care.
I found that moaning during orgasm creates a "down" feeling in the pelvic area, and the greater the sound of moaning, the stronger the orgasm.
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