I used to be a good girl"-
How terrible it is to who will be eager to stare at your bedroom window and sing your girlfriend.
I used to make homemade fudge for all the lovely boys and hope they noticed me. Now .
When I published a book about ghosts and serial killers, they attracted quirky fanatics.
The point is, I know where good people come from.
I flinch when I watched them vandalize their relationship unconsciously.
I have heard some stories from my female friends about how creepy good people have become.
I 've seen good people like you drive away pretty girls who once wanted to give them a chance.
So if you don't understand how your sweetness and kindness scare anyone away, cheer up because I'll give you some internal information about where you went wrong.
This is an interesting game.
Sit down with a group of girls and ask them to list the sweetest and most romantic things that their favorite men have done for them.
Then let them list one of the scariest and most terrible things that people they don't like do to get their attention.
Then calculate how many exactly the same things are in the two lists.
Sappy poetry, sketch, painting, acoustic ballad, mix tape--
Sweet, personalized, homemade gestures are mines with unstable romantic weapons.
Do it well and you will destroy the game, shake the ground and blow away. . . um . . .
When two people suddenly decide that they really like each other, anything will explode.
Got it wrong, you just took a clean picture of Cupid's dick.
Hey, this former fudge.
Let the girl get the attraction of sweet and lively gestures.
I wrote poems for people I like.
I made mixed tapes and playlists.
I got things for men.
My book contains all sorts of grand romantic gestures.
Long before love, the entertainment industry had lived in a sweet romantic gesture --
The children in their 90 s were hit with boombox on their heads.
When it comes to love, we are trained to think bigger and better.
How unstable your gestures are in a movie doesn't even matter.
In the grand cheerleading epic, ancameo (Jesse Bradford)
In the House of the cheerleaders Kirsten Dunst, a tape of a song he wrote for her appeared.
The song starts with the most important thing in her life that he insults and then tells her that he wants to do so.
Because it was a movie, she began to dance in her pajamas on the bed and beat her ass with a ball.
There are many ways to make it wrong in real life.
First of all, there must be a big gesture.
Bad amateur poetry and crappy artwork are sad.
On top of that, there's no way to look creepy faster than getting too powerful. . .
It makes music particularly dangerous because there aren't so many lyrics like "Hey I think you're a little cute and I want to find a time to go out and walk if you think it's cool
"Other than that, you both have to be on the same page in order for it to work.
If you take her out for dinner and she hates food, you can continue eating with a smile.
But if you take a few hours to write her a song, a poem, or organize a group of flashers to dance a choreographed dance, that's what she has to do. Like, a lot.
Because if she was just talking about it, there wouldn't be any results.
You just put a hope of a relationship in your ass and fart.
Launch it into the sun.
Because your disgusting sweet and romantic art is sprinkled on paper.
It's the biggest weapon you 've ever had, and it's a very big, adventurous, frankly stupid thing to do.
Whether she likes it or not, you just put her on the scene.
This is often embarrassing and uncomfortable. . .
Why are you trying to embarrass someone you like?
It didn't get interesting until we got married.
Do you want to try a sick sweet romantic pose in a real human girl? Start small. Nothing big.
Nothing fierce.
There is no promise of eternal love.
Don't blow your romantic roll to someone you haven't really dated yet (
Or worse, it has something to do with others)
Because it's embarrassing and uncomfortable for everyone.
My generous big gesture friend has been with Mr.
Nice guy for a week or so when she joked about needing a massage.
To her shock, he showed up on their next date with a gift --
Packed with exotic private massager.
I know a man who paid a girl's credit card bill before his first date.
I know that another person who decided to travel together in Disney World for a week will be the perfect way for a brand
New relationship-
He lives in Canada.
Good people kick their ass in big gestures.
But each of these relationships ends up collapsing and burning in a big flame and humiliation.
Because the thing is this: the grand gesture, especially the financial one, is very uncomfortable, and even very simple for those who are not used to it.
Money makes people feel strange. It just does.
Especially when everyone else shows up at a birthday party and thinks "Hey" is needed for all occasions, you walk in with a gift --wrapped .
Don't you hate being with people who always show off that he's richer than you?
What about the sticky crap that always pays but makes you feel like he's doing something creepy?
These people are the laughing stock of the movie, the villain, or Richard Gill.
Don't start a relationship that looks like a bag of money to save a prostitute.
The intuitive response to this is: "I 've spent a lifetime being told I should pay for a date, and now you tell me that women hate men who pay for things?
So basically if I do that I will be cursed and I will be cursed if I don't?
"No, I mean, your posture may be self-sabotaging.
Do you want a check?
Then try to ask your emotional objects if they are cool about it.
Or "Hey, I want to book something really great for our first date.
Do you think this is cool, or are you willing to do something low-key? key?
"Remember, there is you in this matter.
You have to think about what won't make her uncomfortable.
It would be great if your intention was for her to have a wonderful night out and she had the idea too.
If your purpose is to make her feel that she owes you something in return, then you are not actually a good person;
You are just a little thing.
Shower them all the time over time and attention. . .
On the stage of my beautiful girl Taylor Swift, one of the worst things I 've ever done is trying to get me into a sexy man by giving him a personalized version of the track mad classic song this guy promises to watch his beloved people a lot, because she's his. It failed.
Oh, how it failed.
For most women, there is nothing more horrible than a man who wants to suffocate her by her side.
This is really bad news for good people, because it is their nature to want this.
He clicked "like" on all her social media posts ".
He offered to help her with her work, hobbies and homework.
He showed up when she got off work to give her a ride.
All the time, she was everywhere, forever, and soon changed from "He looks sweet" to "Ah!
Let me stay alone for two minutes. I'm going to call the police.
"I know a girl who is on the second day of posting, just because a man likes her post, on her social media account. (
He set up a bunch of alarms. )
I know another girl, and when it became clear that he changed the bus schedule to sit next to her every day, she ran screaming from a good man.
Basically, whenever you find yourself arguing with someone you barely know why she doesn't text you often, you can assume that the little voice in her head is chanting "Run, run! "Seems harsh?
Well, from a woman's point of view, there are more creepy, controlling and possessive follow-ups in the world than good people.
How does she know you're not one of them?
It's important to know that it's not your fault, but if you
The right thing to do is to walk around without interruption and show her how normal you are and you just raise the volume on her tracking alarm.
"I just want to protect you", there are assholes and reptiles everywhere in the world, and too many sexy and interesting women are attracted to them from the perspective of good people.
If the evil man in the middle of us does not wear a mask, and the pretty girl on the table next door really sees how bad that person is, she will fall directly into your arms.
Or at the very least, you will save a wounded world for her. Look, I get it.
It is noble to save people.
There is an entire sub-genre dedicated to helping girls see this and a's angry music that you can't believe because.
Very sweet and loving. Sometimes. But honestly?
It can also be condescending and very annoying because basically what you say to an adult --
The ass man is you know her better than she does, she is not smart enough to know what situation she is in.
You told her that she was cheated when she went out with the guy.
You might as well just yell "wake up, you idiot!
"It has many forms.
"This is all the stain on the person you dated.
That's why he's bad for you.
If you are not a queen, you will be treated as a queen.
"Please don't do what I don't like because it's not good for you and I want you to be healthy and happy.
"Please don't ruin yourself by going to bed with that person, getting a tattoo, going to college or whatever.
"All of this comes down to whether you like it or not, and she has afor doing whatever she's doing.
Of course, you can think about it as a friend.
But to be prepared, she may not want to hear from you, which may annoy her.
Her body, mind, future and thoughts are her business.
Those are her. Not you.
Forgetting this, or acting as if she didn't make a good decision, or nagging about her life after she was told you gave up, will make you look like an ordinary person and fastYou care. You're nice.
But sometimes, even though you hate to hear this.
It makes me understand that it sounds like an alien language to good people. . .
You avoid conflict completely because people don't like to fight.
They don't like to hurt others, so they don't risk fighting.
Because of this, they usually don't say what they mean.
They also don't like to be rejected, so instead of just coming out and saying they're interested in a person, they give some tips.
Then, when that person is not caught, they feel depressed and hurt.
Unfortunately, all this adds up to make you look like a scared little child.
If good people are lucky enough to get into a relationship, they will do anything to keep it going. . .
This usually means avoiding arguments.
They don't ask questions that bother them, especially if the source of the injury (
Even inadvertently)
The other half of them.
Instead, they hide it, ignore it, or sugar-coated for a long time until they finally reach a turning point where it shoots out of their word hole like an emotional projection.
It was supposed to be a simple and honest conversation, but it turned into a huge quarrel. Don't do that.
Conflict and confrontation are important components of the relationship.
You can't ask her out if you can't face her.
If you don't talk about conflict, you won't be able to fix the broken relationship.
It's important to remember that there's a difference between "I want to talk about what's bothering me" and "you 've been a trouble lately", and it's time to go upside down!
"This is terrible ---
God knows I understand--
But this is a must.
Do you want to express your love and commitment?
This is the best way.
If there is a problem with the relationship, talk about it (
Yes, about it)
Show you care enough to fix it.
If you like this beautiful girl, let her know in a direct, simple and honest way.
Remember, if she is a good girl, she may be as scared as you are.
But at least not because you're a creepy tracker.