Browsing our personal relationships can be very confusing at times.
Whether you want to know how to spice up your marriage or how to deal with your relationship --
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Browsing our personal relationships can be very confusing at times (
Even a so-called expert like me)!
As a sex and relationship writer, I receive questions from readers every week.
Interestingly, many of you are curious about the same thing.
Curious about what Canadians are thinking?
Here are the five sex and relationship questions and answers I have received over the past year.
It can be very frustrating when you want to have sex but your partner doesn't do it.
It may even feel like your partner has rejected you.
Even if this is not the case.
In fact, there are many reasons why some people may not want to have sex: hormonal changes, diseases, depression, negative physical health, exhaustion after childbirth or menopause.
The list continues.
The point is that there is no magic switch to get your partner interested in sex again, so don't blame yourself for not finding it yet. My suggestion?
Talk to your partner before you start defending.
Ask them how they feel.
Listen actively to what they say and don't judge them.
Pour them a glass of wine.
Second, don't worry.
We often focus so much on having sex that we forget about other forms of intimacy, such as holding hands, hugging, and intimate conversations.
Plan a date night with your partner, where sex is not even on the menu, and you can talk and focus on other forms of intimacy under pressure --
Free environment.
Without the pressure of sex, it makes sex more attractive.
For the record, not every woman is looking for a man with a model figure and a millionaire bank account.
I think a lot of us will be happy to meet someone who is kind, respectful and does the job he likes.
However, return to the old problem of "good people.
Unfortunately, rejection is an inherent part of dating.
In order to find the right way, we need to be rejected by the wrong person.
It is important that if you continue to strike, you may want to see what kind of person you are after.
Instead of focusing on what you think other people want, ask yourself what you really want.
In the end, I am always alert to those who claim to be "good people.
Always remind you how "good" they are and often not very good.
Instead, they often suffer and rage from being rejected, guess what?
This can be felt by others.
Don't turn your past disappointment into self
Fulfill the prophecy.
When we hook up with someone and they don't call or text us, it's natural that our minds are speeding and trying to figure out what might be wrong.
The thing is this: You did nothing wrong.
It's bad to be rejected, but it's not your problem.
If someone is hooked up with you, at least not mature enough to admit it, it is their responsibility.
I'm not perfect.
There have been times when I turned down those smart, kind and attractive people because I don't feel the romantic connection.
Yes, it's cowardly and immature, but at that time it seems easier to make things go away than an awkward conversation in which I publicly hurt someone's feelings.
Don't drive yourself crazy. And remember —
It's not our responsibility to try to figure out why someone has shortcomings that they do --
But admit them and move on.
Love and dating are not guaranteed, which is why dating looks so scary.
You put your heart aside and there is no guarantee that the other party will repay you, and if they do, how long will the relationship last.
This is an uncomfortable feeling.
However, as I like to tell people, "you need to be comfortable with uncomfortable things if you're going to date.
"The only real way to recover from a disappointing dating environment is to give yourself time.
We often try to recover from breaking up or disappointment before we are ready.
Give yourself time and space to feel what you need to feel.
Finally, there is no rule that you have to date just because you are single.
If it feels good for you to take time out of your appointment, hurry up.
According to Elizabeth Lloyd's book, in the case of female orgasms, only 25% of female orgasms are seen in vaginal penetration alone.
So while it's frustrating to miss the big O, you're not alone.
Nevertheless, adding sex toys to the mixture is a great way to find that it feels good!
When choosing your first personality toy, I usually advise people to start with a small clit vibrator. (
I really like us. Vibe touch. )
This is a great toy because it has different speed and vibration modes (
From very delicate to very strong).
You can use it alone or with partners.
Before you introduce toys to your partner, start with some single player games.
Set aside an hour or two when you won't be interrupted, and take the time to explore what feels good, without any pressure on the results.